Sunday, July 27, 2014

A View From our Backyard

I decided to write a blog listing as many of the animals as I could remember in no particular order, that have visited our yard in NY over the years.

Yesterday, dad trimmed right into a white-faced hornet nest hidden in our Taxis bush.  The unhappy hornets swarmed out and dad ran like crazy.   He was only stung one time but those white faced hornets are lethal.  A sting from them is always noticed and remembered.   Dad got even.  He is usually up to a fight if properly enticed.  Did you guys know that about him?  He readily and hastily destroyed that giant nest and most of the hornets are nesting in heaven now.  That same morning in the same garden dad found a pretty cool snake skin.  

It is perfectly intact.  Every detail.  The eye holes, the nose hole, the jaws, the tail, everything perfect.  It is hard to figure out where the snake could have possible crawled out of it.   It is a mystery.  How does a snake crawl out of his skin?

We had two other intriguing and almost comical animal experiences that day; thus I decided time to write them all down in one place.
A few mornings ago, at exactly 5:20 am, I, (being the light sleeper that I am), heard a tapping noise on our outside gutter outside our bedroom.  Knowing it was not supposed to rain, I investigated.  I could not see anything from the angle of our bedroom window, so I quietly went downstairs and without turning on a single light, ( I only mention this to impress how brave I was being), I peeked out of our back patio door. The culprit- bats, quite a few, diving all around the drainpipe.  The sun had not yet risen, but it was that peaceful early morning light that seems heavenly. I sat with a blanket wrapped around me and watched.  I could not see exactly where they were entering, or what- the drainpipe, downspout, gutter, or siding.  I said a sweet early morning prayer just thankful for our home and yard and its beauty, and went back to bed.  No reason to wake dad; he had gotten to bed at midnight.  I told him about it, and we were too busy to do anything that evening. I heard them the next 2 mornings.
Friday night: Quote from Google +

we had a sweet date last night, sitting on our back deck at 8, cool enough for blankets wrapped around us, eating popcorn, and waiting to see when the bats came out, or rather, where they came out of.  THEN, we see one fly out, we creep down closer,  another, closer.... and we watch as one at a time, 8 more come down out of the corner of our house siding, and fly away.  We were about 3 ft from the opening. It was pretty cool.  
This was not our first experience with bats trying to get into our house. We do see them flying freely each night after the sun goes down, and they do a great job keeping our bug population down.
Sparrows, bluebirds, and swallows-Oops, we did it again…
Our children all know how much I love the bluebird house that Jacob made me years ago. It has been a pleasure to me year after year. I wish I had the binoculars dad bought me this year for my birthday years ago.  I can see all the birds so much better.  


Pics from Tevia
The bluebirds return every year. I pay close attention to their habits, and even used to write down when they came, nested, and fledged.   For some reason, the last few years, some predator has destroyed or eaten the eggs right before or after they hatched.  I have not been able to confirm if it is a raccoon, snake, hawk, or other.  It always makes me sad.  And I have not been able to prevent it.

This year it happened twice; first with the swallows that nested there, then again a month later with our loyal bluebirds.  Darn it anyways. I felt like an enabler of some sort- giving them a safe home, watching the ever diligent father keep watch over the nest and mother, and then, to have them taken.  So sad.
Well, people tell bird watchers if sparrows nest in your bluebird houses, remove the nest.  They were our third couple this summer. I didn’t get out to remove the nest, and didn’t really worry about it.  The Saturday morning after the bats, dad was out working in the yard, and I remembered to tell him that we should remove the nest. He hastily and obediently did, and quickly realized his mistake.  When he threw the nest on the ground, it had 5 live baby sparrows in it. He called me over and they looked so helpless.  Some were getting feathers, and one was so skinny and tiny. He felt terrible.  Now we were directly involved in the death of these poor nesting birds.  Then I thought, use something to scoop them and the nest up and return them.  So he did.  The sparrow mom returned immediately, and so far, so good.  At least we did not see her throwing them out or anything.  I didn’t have time for pics, and figured my camera wouldn’t really be able to catch it well anyways, as they were laying in the straw in the grass.
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I suppose one hint of what could be our local predator is the magnificent hawk that has been hanging around our backyard lately.   I could not find the photo of this amazing bird, and I have no proof it was him. 
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Sounds:
Each summer, we are treated to the sounds of nature.  From the echoes of tree frogs, to various kinds of birds, they start at dusk and change throughout the night into early morning.  It is also here I heard my first real owl, and was a good enough spy to sneak up on one and confirm it was truly him who was creating the unique sound.  Once in a awhile we can hear the barking of coyotes, although not every summer.
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Cycles
Which brings me to cycles.  We have been privy to learning about nature by observing what animals are around each year. Some years we have more rabbits, like this year.  When the rabbits are around, we don’t see the foxes. When the foxes are around, we don’t see any rabbits.  We can even hear the horrible cry of baby rabbits losing out to the foxes some springs.   This is also true of the turkeys, some years we see them often, some years, not so much. 

A side note- we always liked watching the foxes, and I never really thought of them as a danger. They were often seen during the day. When our new neighbors across the street moved in, a fox stalked their little girl, watched her sitting on her back steps, and before you could say Jack-sprat, ran up and bit her. They called for help, the fox was caught, and the girl needed rabies shots. 
Other years, we saw the cycles of insects, from the year of the moth caterpillar, to ladybugs everywhere, to the locusts, and the june bugs.  Some years we get tons of wasps, other years, hardly any. Same for Japanese beetles.  
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We watched an eagle fly overhead as Kathy was learning to drive and hit the bush with the car. 
We had a duck adopt our pool, and a pond in our back yard from heavy rain.
The deer are a continual sight, which I love, fawns, bucks, and doe.  

With Daisy and Bugle being gone, we have noticed more animals close up to the house

We have accidentally and purposely trapped raccoon, an opossum, a squirrel, a skunk, and lots of chipmunks and ground hogs.  





Some years we see skunks all over, even early evening as we walk, and the smell is observed weekly.  This year, I have not seen nor smelled one at all.
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Bret sent me a hummingbird feeder, and since then, we get them yearly.  So from the tiniest birds to the most colorful, we get a plethora of fine feathered friends: a delight to me. I also love to watch the squirrels hang and dance and try as they might to get to the bird feeder, now that I have a “squirrel-proof” one.  For years, the squirrels outsmarted even dad’s best home made efforts to thwart them.

This past winter brought so much snow, I seldom trooped out to my birdfeeder, so I started putting crumbs and seeds and nuts on my deck.  That brought the squirrels, which I didn’t mind, and I ‘trained’ one with peanuts so that when my grandkids came, they could see it. He came daily, and loved his peanut.  

I am very grateful for a beautiful yard, porch, deck, and home to live in for so many years, 

Sunday, June 22, 2014

Sixty

Sixty really sounds old. Up until now, I was never worried about telling people my age.  Now I am.  Once you start the number with sixty_,  there is no question in anyone's mind that that person is old.
But, I don't feel old.  Well, my body continues to tell me it is wearing out, as most bodies do, but  my heart and mind and spirit feel young and happy and full of life.
I do not have a bucket list.  I suppose I should make one.  I did want to try to kayak, so I am glad I finally got to do that.
I am much like Bret.  (see 40 blog)
I feel so much gratitude, daily, weekly, all the time.  I have loved my life. I have a few small regrets here and there, but for the most part, I can see clearly how the Lord guided me, watched over me, helped me, and was there for me whenever I needed Him.
I have the best husband who works so hard so I can pretty much serve lots of other people, which I love to do.  I have the best children, including their spouses, and amazing grandchildren.  All of my family brings me great joy!  I have the best sister in the world.
I wake up to birds singing, I sleep in a safe bed in a comfortable house in a beautiful neighborhood.
I have made so many friends in this world who have left many footprints on my heart.
  My blessings cannot even be numbered.
I hope I have not let any of you down.  I am trying my best.
I feel I have pieced together a quilt of many interests, loves, strengths, talents, people, and gifts.  I have had the opportunity to nurture, to create, to be free, and to learn and grow. I still love to learn.
I feel strong and happy.  I rejoice in this life I have been given.  I did not expect to live this long. or to have this kind of life.
At this age of 60 where I expected to find grandmothers and rocking chairs, I still want adventures. I celebrate the story of my life. Each day more He gives me, I will cherish, and try to use to fulfill my purpose and destiny.
Dad  gave me binoculars for my birthday- a very unexpected gift. He said to use them to see the beauty of this world.  And I will...

Sunday, June 08, 2014

40

As of today I have been on this earth for 40 years.  It's hard to even type that sentence as it doesn't seem remotely true.  Forty seems so old and I don't feel that old.  I honestly don't feel all that different than when I was 30.  And 30 didn't seem all that different from 20 (though much better).

I woke up this morning and knelt down in prayer and thanked God for giving me 40 years.  My heart, as usual, was full of gratitude.  It is hard to come up with any complaints about my life.  So what wisdom do I have as I reach this mid-life age?  I will write a few things, but I also know that if I have learned anything at this point, it is that people are very different.  What's important to me is not important to somebody else. And what may bring happiness and joy to me may not do so to another.  But overall I would say I am happier in my life than most people I speak to.  I am grateful for that.

So let's get Bret's wisdom of life at 40.

LOVE: Not one day have I ever regretted the fact that I got married young and had a family young.  Love is a strange thing and can come and go.  But I am grateful to have found someone to love so early.  Life sucks being alone - at least for me.  For nearly half my life I have now had someone by my side who I care about and know cares about me.  And she is a hottie, which makes life even better.  And then to have 3 boys who love me and their mom and bring such joy to my life makes my life so much nicer.  So my wisdom would be to surround yourself by those you love - and by those who love you.

WORK: I was taught to work hard and this has led me to a great job and good fortune.  Unfortunately work still kinda sucks, especially when you give so much and the only thing you may get back is money.  But life seems much worse if you don't/can't work.  I am grateful for the motivation by family and friends to work hard in school and set myself on a course where I can earn a good living for my family.  But I have also learned that your career WILL NOT be the source of your joy or purpose in this life.  In fact, it will often be the hardest part.  The older I get, the more wise the Law of Consecration appears to me.

MONEY: It sometimes seems unfair for me to say this as I know I have been blessed financially, but money doesn't bring happiness.  Over the years I have shared studies that "prove" this and seen personal lives where this rings true.  Make sure you have a way to bring in a decent income, but don't let money be the measuring stick of your success.  If you do, you will always fail.  Plus Jesus had some interesting thoughts on being rich that kinda scare me.

GOD: God has played a big role in my life since I was a kid.  I can't remember a time in my life where I didn't pray to God and feel that I have a relationship with him.  I feel this has been a positive influence in my life.  There are days when even those who love you seem far away.  But God has always been there.  He has been there on days when I was a kid and wanted a dad.  He was there on days when I was hungry and alone in Brazil.  And He is there today when I try to be a better man and husband and father.

MOTIVATION: For me, three things motivate me.  1. My family; I want to be a good husband, a good father, a good son, a good brother.  I want to make them happy.  I want to thank them for being there in my life.  They keep me grounded and humble and happy.  2. My God.  I want to live with God again and live up to my potential.  I know I am not perfect, but I know that through God's grace I can be saved.  3. Self worth; I don't know if this is something my parents helped me develop, if it is just my personality, my DNA, or what, but I like being me and I want to improve in things.  I want to continue to learn, to be nicer, to grow and get better.  These three things keep me going, especially on those days when you wake up and realize you have another 40 years to work for someone who may not care all that much for you and what in the world am I doing this for.

WOMEN: I know I am wiser now as I think I know less about women than I thought I did 20 years ago.  Maybe because I didn't know any women then (they were really just girls).  Truly men and women are different.  That isn't a bad thing.  But it can be utterly confusing and sometimes downright vexing.  Good thing they tend to be so cute.

So there is my limited wisdom at age 40.  If I were to leave any advice to my kids or siblings or friends who will soon also approach this age, it would be:

- 40 doesn't feel that old
- Live life to its fullest.  Don't stress about the past or the future.
- Be grateful for what you have
- Love yourself and others.  Haters suck.
- Look for opportunities to see how people unlike you live their lives.



Tuesday, April 08, 2014

Costa Rica 2014

It has been a crazy few weeks.  I was just in Ireland and then this last week was in Costa Rica.  I had to go down for business as my client has a large office down there and we work with quite a few people there.  I took a couple of our employees down to do some training and meet the team.  From a business perspective the trip was great.

But at the same time we were in Costa Rica.  So I decided to stay and extra couple of days and take advantage.  First impressions were that the people there are very friendly.  It reminded me of Brazil.  Everyone says hello, people driving are nice (not necessarily true in Brazil while I was there) and lots of hugs and kisses.  It felt more like Mexico than Brazil from a weather and city perspective.  Maybe that is because people were speaking Spanish, but my memories of Brazil (particularly southern Brazil) seem more related to Europe than Mexico.  The weather was great.  Highs around 80 every day and this was the dry season (of course it was!  I was there!).  The humidity and flora reminded me of our trips down to Playa (sans beach of course, as the city - San Jose - is in the middle of the country).

The hotel we stayed at was nice.  It was the Doubletree in Cariari near the airport and our client's office.  Upon arrival I got excited as there were signs welcoming the national football teams for 4 nations: Japan, Venezuela, Spain and Italy.  Come to find out the World Cup for under-17 women was being held this week.  Oddly enough, these four teams were in the semi-finals with Japan winning in the Final on Friday night.  It was fun to see all the girls in their kits (that is what people outside the US usually call soccer uniforms) and enjoying their time in Costa Rica.  I had hoped Japan would win and watched the game and was happy to see them win.

The food was also great.  For lunch one day we went to this amazing place that had all sorts of great food.  In typical latin-style our hosts pampered us and made us try everything.  So I ate ceviche (awesome), some cheese things that were great, pork, ribs, beef, chicken, yucca (which I love), plantains, etc.  Afterwards we had some unique ice cream (they called it "helado  de sorbeta" or something like that which means ice cream sorbet) that was amazing.  It was fun to practice my Spanish, too.  One evening I ordered some chorrizo tacos only to realize that chorrizo in Costa Rica is not the same as in Mexico.  It was still good, but disappointing at the same time.

Saturday I woke up to get my rental car to travel up to the Arenal region, which is where there is a large volcano that up until a couple of years ago was fairly active and thus draws a lot of attention.  I had a choice between this and a beach and as much as I love the beach, since Tevia wasn't with me I thought I'd try the rain forest.  In typical fashion it took me over an hour to get my rental car, but then headed on the two hour plus drive up into the mountains.  I didn't have GPS but was given a small map and told there are signs to follow.  I saw this as an adventure so didn't stress (I usually like to be very prepared for trips).  An interesting side note, they don't really use addresses in Costa Rica.  They use "points of reference" and then you find what you are looking for from there.  So the hotel I stayed at didn't really have an address to put in Google Maps (though you can put in the latitude/longitude).  I found that interesting, as this was true even in the city.

I arrived at my hotel with no issues and got myself some lunch from a place across the street.


You can see the volcano in the background.  It is almost never totally visible as the clouds shroud it from the convergence of winds from the Pacific and Caribbean.  The hotel was great and the owners very nice.  After lunch I wanted to hike to a waterfall down the road.  So I took off and enjoyed the short hike and swim at the waterfall.  It is about 200 feet high and was pretty cool.  



After that I relaxed a bit by the pool and watched the birds and read my book.  There are hundreds of bird species in Costa Rica so I enjoyed seeing so many of them.  Many are beautiful.  I saw a green macaw, some parakeets, a bunch of birds I don't know what they are, hummingbirds, and even a couple of toucans.  For dinner I went to the same place across the street as they were very nice and the food was awesome.  I also walked into town (about 1.5 miles from my hotel) to see the town.

The next day I wanted to do the Cerro Chato hike.  This is noted as being a tough hike to the top of a dormant volcano where there is now a green lagoon in the crater.  I read quite a bit about this hike and was a little worried as some people said it took 5 hours to go up and down.  I had to check out by noon, so I left early to start hiking by 7.  I will say the hike, though only about 2 or 3 miles up, was quite tough.  But I was at the lagoon by 8:30 even with having to stop a few times while going through the rain forest.  The rain forest was all I imagined it to be.  This day it was shrouded in clouds and was perpetually wet even though it was dry season.  There were times it was almost dark.  There were several times I thought, 'what if I tripped and fell off this cliff, would anybody even know?' as I was hiking alone and nobody else was on the trail.  

Upon arriving at the lagoon it was cool to see the fog come in.  Though it would have been cool to see it on a clear day (rare), this was what it usually looks like.  I took the time to swim in it by myself and enjoy some downtime.  Only upon leaving the lagoon did I finally see another person (who was also by himself).  Here are some pics along with a pic from the web to show what it looks like when clear.




On the hike back down several groups were starting their ascent.  Several looked pooped out already.  I knew the feeling.  Hiking in such humidity was interesting as my shirt and shorts were both literally soaked by the time I got to the lagoon.  And my white Adidas were basically ruined with mud.  But it was worth it.  

The views were beautiful and I took a 'panoramic' shot on the hike down.


I made it back to the hotel with plenty of time to rest and then check out and drive back down to San Jose.  I had rented a stick shift as I like to do that to practice.  Not so fun to drive going down steep windy roads after your legs are sore from hiking.  The best was when I first got the car I turned it on without using the clutch and the car lurched forward and stalled.  Then I tried to put it in reverse without using the clutch (to no success).  Funny how habits work.

That evening was my last.  I hadn't eaten all day and was dehydrated and hungry.  The only place close to my hotel near the airport was --- Denny's.  Crazy, huh?  But I ate there anyway, knowing they would have shakes and a milkshake sounded mighty nice.  

My plane left early the next morning so I took the car back to the rental place (an adventure itself) and had plenty of time to board.  The airport had crazy expensive food which I refused to pay for, plus they didn't allow drinks on the plane.  So by the time I got to Phoenix 5 hours later I was ready for that homemade pizza Tevia had made the night before.  

Though I enjoyed the trip, I will admit I was very lonely over the weekend.  For me, it just isn't as fun as sharing the experience with someone else.  Each hike, each adventure, each meal I would just think how much better it would have been if Tevia or someone else were with me.  But I never like to be alone.  It is just who I am.  Overall the country was beautiful.  But for the money, if I were going to pick, I'd stick to Mexico.

Sunday, March 30, 2014

Ireland 2014

Last week I had to meet up with a client in Dublin, Ireland for some meetings.  I headed out late Friday evening on a flight to London and then caught a flight to Dublin to arrive late Saturday night.  I wanted to give myself at least one day to get over the jetlag, which was good since I only slept about 2 hours that night.

So Sunday I decided the best thing to do was take a long bus tour.  I rarely do these touristy type things as I would rather just explore on my own in a car or something, but I knew I would be tired and could sleep on the bus if needed.  And it was needed!  I picked to do the Cliffs of Moher tour.  We stopped at King John's castle and then eventually arrived on the west coast of Ireland to see the cliffs.  They were magnificent.

 These cliffs are 750 feet high and you can walk right up to the edge.  It was awesome.  We were able to stay there for nearly 2 hours.  Afterwards we stopped at a small pub in a small town to eat lunch.  The tour guide suggested something local like "Irish Stew" which I did.  Basically it is the same as stew here in the USA.  But it was good.  We also stopped at a cool monastery that was built in the 1100s.
The drive through Ireland was beautiful.  It is indeed very green and there are a lot of sheep.  We got back in Dublin about 7 PM and I then headed up to the hotel by my client which was outside of Dublin.  It was gorgeous on a huge lot of land surrounded by open pastures and two gold courses.  

I then had meetings the next couple of days.  The one evening our client took us into Dublin for a walking tour downtown to see Dublin Castle and talk about some of the history.  We then once again headed to a pub for dinner and drinks.  I got some odd looks when I said I didn't drink - especially when they really wanted me to try the Guinness.  But it was fun.

Wednesday I flew back to London to head to my company's office which is outside of London in a town called Swindon.  That evening I didn't have any plans so decided to go see Captain America: Winter's Soldier.  It came out earlier in the UK than in the USA (still not showing here).  I figured out the way to walk there and had a fun evening seeing the movie.  This was similar to the last time I was in London when I was able to see the Avengers before it came out in the USA.  So maybe this is a patter and I'll be there next for Avenger's 2!  

Thursday I spent the day in our office doing training for our team there and meeting them in person.  It was nice.  My hotel in Swindon wasn't the greatest, but it was convenient.  No iron in the room the sink only had one hot faucet and one cold faucet (not mixed).  At this point I was ready to go home and Friday I went back to London to get on the plane back to Phoenix.  I got in late Friday evening.  Tevia and Jarek weren't home as they were in California.  Jacob Webb picked me up at the airport and I was able to collect my other two boys and sleep at home in my wonderful bed again; though alone!  

Saturday I went golfing with Jake and Jake and then we headed to the AZ Game and Fish expo, which was quite fun.  Here are a few pics from that adventure.  Next stop: Costa Rica.




Monday, March 17, 2014

2014 has been awesome!

I am working hard to make the year I turn 40 a great one.  And so far it has been awesome.  I know I am doing a poor job of documenting what I have been doing.  So to catch up I will just bullet point some things that have been great.

- Luke Air Force Air Show: We attended this a few years ago and I was excited to go this year hoping to see an F-35.  It didn't start out great as it took almost 3 hours to get there (it is 20 miles from our house!), but in the end I loved seeing the planes and jets and spending time with our family and Jake and Cari and their family.  And we got a bonus of tasting some awesome spicy ketchup.

- Trip to Napa Valley.  My company's annual conference was last week in Napa Valley and it was great.  Though I don't drink wine (this is wine country) I still had a wonderful time.  I was one of our company's presenters and had a great time with my client.  One night we went to Francis Ford Coppolla's vinyard/home.  He even came out to say hi (though I didn't see him).  We were able to sign up for an activity (like a wine tour or massage) and I signed up for the service project. We went to a school and helped out.  It was probably my favorite part of the trip.  I mostly played and reffed soccer for the kids.

- Attended several concerts for both Jarek and Malik.  They are both so talented.  Must have got that from their mom.

- Malik received the priesthood.  Malik turned 12 and we had family and friends over after the Gilbert Temple Dedication to give him the priesthood and celebrate.  The next week it was awesome to see both Malik and Jarek pass the sacrament on Sunday.

- Golfing.  With Jacob Webb moving down to AZ he has motivated us to golf some more.  I have gone more this year than the last 3 years combined!  It has been fun golfing with him, Brandt and Jacob Wall.  Brandt kicks our butts, but I am finally starting to play a little better.

Next up are trips to Ireland, Costa Rica and New York.  I am excited.  Work is going great.  Loving the new job.

Sunday, March 09, 2014

Gratitude Sunday

I wanted to take some time to thank all of you for making me feel so comfortable, at home, wanted, and happy while I visited.  I know I can be forgetful and silly and easily brought to tears, but you all treat me with respect and love. I honestly can't believe you still want me to be around so much.  It makes me feel good, and loved.
Thank you all for overlooking my faults, and accepting me, and allowing me to play a part in your family's lives.
I also want to tell you all how proud I am of how you serve in your callings.  I see your strong examples to each other and your children.  It is fantastic.  We don't serve to get blessings, but they come, surely and steadily.
I see your faith, and feel your testimonies.  It is an honor to be your mother, and mother-in-law, and grandmother.
I want to make an even greater effort to be a part of your children's lives until we can move closer.  Let me know if ever you come up with an idea that I can help with, or a gift I could give, or something I can make or do.  I will try to write each child more, and to Skype more.
I am so blessed to have children who just call me when they are walking home, or at an airport, or to just talk, or for advice, or to share things with.
I am looking forward to 2 baby blessings and a baptism this year. I am proud of Malik choosing the priesthood, and Bret being worthy to ordain him.  Speed loved hearing his name mentioned as Bret read the line of authority, and I felt the Spirit so strongly.
I love how we love each other, even though, of course, we have our differences.  I know each one of us would do whatever it took to help each other if needed.  I know you are there for me.
I look back and see the fun and love and story of our family, and I clearly see how blessed we are.
The sun is shining to day, and though alone, I feel so loved and blessed.  I love Sundays!

Friday, February 14, 2014

Losing

It sucks to lose.

2/13/14 will most certainly be the worst day of 2014 (unless sickness, sin etc i.e. real problems)

Last night while trying to recover from a most awful day I decided to at least document the low.  As I sing the song "Everything is Awful" instead of awesome, here is the list of the baddies.

5%    I lose 3 important games in DOTA worth $500 prize money

5%    I lose my Elder's Quorum basketball game

10%  Fraud is bad, the government doesn't care about losing billions to criminals.  I guess taxes are basically fraud anyway.  So, Tax Hawk is in a war versus criminals to avoid charge-backs and damage control with the credit card companies.  Cari's work has been frustrating and scheduled as a result.

15%  BYU loses to another sub-par team and is out of March Madness

15%  My favorite company of all time takes a giant step toward going out of business.  NPD reports came in and the Wii U is dead.  Also, the 3DS sold the worst in 5 years.  Nintendo is embracing micro-transactions in their upcoming games and restructuring their company.  It's the end of an era.

50%  We knew it was coming and that the horror stories from our friends were true, but our insurance was dropped and replaced with the only insurance legal under king obama...  Our rate is now 1,500 a month which does not include our HSA money.  $19,000 pre tithing a year just for the premiums!  Haha, you can't get anymore asinine than that. Tax Hawk is trying to find solutions but atm, they are all illegal.  Obviously we will drop all all coverage after Cari has Thor and go cash only.  Great job obama!


The optimist in me looks at the calendar and grins because its Friday!
Now for the good looking things on the horizon!
Thor or Hermione!
Powell
Fishing with Dad and Bret and Webb
Cross country trip to hell(Tennessee) with Alex and Nicole







Wednesday, February 05, 2014

My early testimony of tithing, letter dated 10/15.80

I have scanned a letter I wrote to my sister right after I moved to SLC.  I know my words may be hard to read, and some are misspelled, but I wanted to share this.
(For those who don't know, Bill was my sister's nickname for years)
I would also love it if you shared it with your kids during a special spiritual time like FHE. (the older ones)
I am grateful I wrote this down.




Sunday, January 19, 2014

My Patriarchal Blessing

I suggested that we each read our blessings as we start out the new year.  I finally have gotten around to it.
I am awed and amazed.
I was given my blessing on April 23, 1978.  It was short, much shorter than each of my children's, and very to the point. There were no super exciting dramatic things like I oft heard people share. It was basically, be good- get blessed.
That is what I thought for most of my early years in the church.
Now, I see it quite differently.
Here are  2 paragraphs I would like to share:
"Karen, I bless you that you may have a hunger and thirst for righteousness, a desire to know and search the scriptures, to become intimately acquainted with your Father in heave and the Lord, Jesus Christ.  I bless you that your mind might be keen and your intellect enlightened, that you may be able to comprehend the scriptures.  As you are diligent and faithful in seeking knowledge, the Lord will touch you that you will understand the truths of the gospel of Jesus Christ.  I bless you that you will come to know and understand that the principles of the gospel are eternal truths, the same truths by which the earth and the universe were created and are operated, and these same truths you may use in your life to judge the truth of all things. Hold fast to those things which measure up to these eternal truths, for they will bring true joy and happiness into your life as you are obedient to them.
I bless you that as a mother... that you might teach these truths to your children..."

How blessed I feel this cold Sunday morning when the warmth of the Gospel shines so clearly in my life.  I end my class every single Wednesday night challenging the students to keep seeking, ever seeking, the truth of all things.  I continue to seek knowledge and truth.  It does bring me great joy when I hear a truth and the Spirit speaks to me of its truth.
Just this morning I watched a BYU discussion on Alma 40- 42.  ( I need to teach that this week) Never before have these doctrines felt so clear and obvious to me.  How awesome has been my growth in this Gospel!  (Of course, I know I have much more to learn)
Study, pray, and prepare.  Read your Patriarchal blessings if you have not done so already.

Friday, January 10, 2014

A dream about Tom

I had extra time today, so I was going through some paperwork.
I found this scribbled on the bottom of a notebook I use for General Conference talks.

8/22/09
" On the night of Tom's birthday, the Lord gave me a special gift.  I had a dream:  I was working in a hospital, and I had a locker.  As I was looking in my locker, I heard  and saw some missionaries come in the room.
I heard Tommy's  voice.  Someone tole me not to look because it was Tommy, and he was still on his mission.  As they walked away, I looked up and saw him and heard his voice!  It was wonderful!  It was as clear as a bell.  Thank you Heavenly Father!"

I am grateful today that I wrote that down. I have had many great spiritual dreams, some I have never even told anyone about.  Some have to do with genealogy.

I want my boys to know how much I missed them when they were on their missions.  Bret was the hardest, because he was so far, and contact was slower and different than now.  I knew they would be blessed and watched over, but I will admit some days were hard.

I am grateful for all of you choosing righteousness and keeping your covenants.

Tuesday, December 31, 2013

Bret's best of 2013

2013 was awesome.  I got a new job, had some great trips, and enjoyed health.  Here are some top things from 2013.

Favorite songs.  It was hard to narrow down my top 10, but in the end, here they are.  Yep, Miley has not one, but TWO of my fav songs of the year.  

Red Hands by Walk Off the Earth
Naked Kids by Grouplove 
We Can't Stop by Miley Cyrus
Wrecking Ball by Miley Cyrus
Sweater Weather by Neighborhood
We Own It by 2 Chainz and Wiz Khalifa
Come & Get It by Selena Gomez
My Songs Know What You Did In the Dark by Fall Out Boy
Just Give Me A Reason by Pink and Nate Ruess
Pacific Rim by Ramin Djawadi

I wanted to embed this, but I can't from the chromebook and I'm too lazy to go to the other computer.  So here is a link to listen to the songs.

https://play.spotify.com/user/darevco27/playlist/4Bu6Ns1gLRLOJjpiSzBXsP

Favorite Book I read in 2013: Chasing the Prophecy (Beyonders 3)

Favorite Movie in 2013: Fast & Furious 6

Favorite New TV Show I watched: Arrow

Most Addictive Game I played: Candy Crush Saga

Favorite Sports Moment: Attending the BYU bowl game (even though we lost)

Here's to a great 2014.  Happy New Year everyone.

Monday, December 30, 2013

Addition to Thanksgiving

I forgot (cuz my pictures to remember were on my phone, not my camera) that we got to finally eat at the cute little diner in Cottonwood with Bret's parents. We ate dinner there after everyone split up from being in Sedona. The food was pretty good, and the the atmosphere was fun! I think the kids enjoyed eating there too. I got some onion rings and they were hands down, the best onion rings I have had in a long time. Delicious! Bret was happy to finally eat at this cute little place.




San Francisco Trip - 2013

For years I have been told that San Francisco is a great place and I should visit.  So when BYU made the deal to have the bowl game there this year I decided it was a good time to go to our first BYU bowl game.  Tevia seemed on board and eventually Jake and Cari also decided to go for it.  Tevia and I decided to use the trip as a getaway and like a Christmas present.  I bought our tickets the first week they were available and we have counted down to the trip ever since.

The day after Christmas Tevia and I drove down from Lakeside where we had spent Christmas and went to the airport to fly out.  We didn't arrive until late that night.  We took the subway to the hotel and pretty much went to bed shortly after arriving.  First impressions to me were it reminded me a lot of Asia; Hong Kong in particular.  This was probably due to the hills and many of the Asia stores found in Hong Kong (like UNIQLO).

Friday we decided to do breakfast at a place down the street called Sears Fine Food.  Jacob and Cari came with us.  There was a line, but we had no deadlines, so we waited in line for some time before being seated.  I ordered the Eggs Benedict.  I have to admit that this meal was fantastic.  I loved it.  In fact, we loved it so much we returned two days later before leaving SF.  We then took a taxi to the fisherman's wharf (Pier 39 to be exact) and spent some time wandering that area.  This was also fun.  I loved seeing the sea lions.  While watching the sea lions we also happened to notice Dave McCann from BYUTV.  He hosts TrueBlue and does many of the sports shows.  We love this guy.  Oddly enough, he eventually came and stood by Jake and I began talking to us.  So we said hello and talked about the game and team and it was kinda fun.


After our celebrity encounter, we visited the aquarium which I also enjoyed.  We then wanted some seafood and even though the place was very crowded, since we weren't in a hurry we waited at a place there on Pier 39.  We had some scallops with a great jalapeno sauce and fish and chips and chowder.  The best was a non-alcoholic raspberry mojito, which was good enough that Tevia and I went back for another at the bar on our last day, too.

We then headed up towards Lombard Street (famous "crooked" street) which was fun walking up the hill and then down the street.  We could see the Golden Gate bridge and Alcatraz.  We grabbed a cable car and headed over to China Town.  We had fun looking at the shops and food and eventually stopped where Jake wanted to try some egg custards (egg tarts) that they eat a lot in China.  The bakery also had sesame balls which I was quick to order one.  Jake tried the egg custard and liked it so much he bought the rest.


At this point it was about time to head to the game.  We went back to our hotel and bundled up a bit and realized that the game was over a mile away and we weren't sure we wanted to walk that (after walking a lot that afternoon).  We were thinking of getting a taxi when a guy approached us and offered to drive us over in his limo/suburban.  We decided to go for it and I'm glad we did.  This was the craziest taxi ride I have ever been in (and I've been in a lot of taxis).  He drove this Suburban like it was a motorcycle and I couldn't believe we didn't hit more than a few cars.  He got us there in record time and we headed into the stadium sporting our Cougar gear and looking forward to our first bowl game.

When I purchased the tickets they didn't provide seats but instead would provide them later.  But you could pay extra to try and get better seats or do some other tricks to get better seats.  I didn't do any of those things but did put a funny note in the note section.  When I got the tickets in the mail I immediately looked online and put in the seat numbers and they looked pretty good, but not as low as I would have liked.  So when we arrived at the stadium and looked for our seats, we couldn't find them in the lower section so I was disappointed and thought we had to go up a level.  But when we went up there they said our seats were down in the lower level.  So we went back down and asked where our seats were.  They guy said these were down by the field and we had to go through a tunnel to get to them.  Wow!  Crazy.  So we went through the tunnel and at the door we had to enter to get to our seats was a line of people.  We asked what they were lining up for and they said the team was going to go by.  So we stayed in the small line and got to see the team come out of the locker room.  Then we went to our seats... which were ... front .. row ..SEATs!  It was awesome.


The game was a blast.  We lost; so that sucked.  But it was fun and the experience was amazing.  We stayed after for quite some time to cheer the sad players on as they entered the locker room.  Many of them (especially the seniors) were in tears.  It looked like Bronco was, too.  We then walked home for a great ending to our day.

The next day J&C went home, so it was just Tevia and I.  I told Tevia to pick what she wanted to do.  We started off going to breakfast (early lunch) getting a Banh Mi at a small Vietnamese place.  We then packed them and took a taxi to Golden Gate park.  The sandwiches were amazing.  Then we walked through the gorgeous park (think the size of Central Park) and went to the Japanese Gardens and some of the lakes.  We eventually ended up on the beach at the end of the park and were amazed to see such a huge beach.  There were surfers even though it was cold.  This park was also the first time I've seen someone wearing Google Glass.  From the beach we hiked up to the baths which was cool area where a guy had built swimming pools long ago.  There was also a tunnel in the mountain.  It was fun hiking and viewing right along the ocean.  From there we took a bus to Ghirardelli Square and waited in an amazingly long line for some ice cream.  We then walked the wharf again and walked back to our hotel.  We rested again before heading out for dinner.  Neither of us were starving so we just walked around and eventually settled on a little Italian joint that had gnocchi (I'm a sucker for gnocchi) and enjoyed a fun meal.  After that we were exhausted (at least i was) and went to bed.



Our last day we had breakfast at Sears again (I ordered the same thing).  We then packed up our stuff and checked out and left our baggage at the hotel.  We then took a cable car ride again and Tevia was excited because we were able to hang out the side.  The driver was very fun and we went to the wharf again to visit one pier Tevia wanted to see.  We eventually made our way back to Pier 39 where we got our mojitos again and then some awesome tiny donuts.  We then took the streetcar back to Union Square where we sat in the sun for some time before gathering our stuff and heading back to PHX.


It was a great trip and I had a lot of fun.

Thursday, December 19, 2013

What I am learning from my calling

I received my first Christmas gift last night. It was sweet, thoughtful, something I can actually use, and probably from the dollar store.  It was heartfelt and sincere, and I was humbled by it.

A few hours earlier, a young man was posting hourly on our YSA FB page, "who is coming to Institute tonight?"
Time went by, and no one answered.  By 2 pm, I was worried it would end up being just him and I.
I also posted, requesting others to let us know if they were coming or not.
If no one else answered by 3:00, I would cancel.  Dad & I started thinking we could end up going to a movie.

There are two sweet girls in Pok 2 ward that are special needs of some sort. They are roommates, and one joined the church this past year, and one when she was 17. One has a 5 yr old child who lives with the father's mother.  Neither work, nor drive,  and I know they live in some kind of government assisted housing.
They immediately answered and said if they could get a ride, they would come.  They love coming. They called around their whole ward until they  found a ride.  Kevin would bring them, and I would bring them home.  They live in the center of the city of Poughkeepsie.
And so it was. There were now 3 'for sure'.
The young man, finding out it would now just be him and these 2 girls, wrote, and I quote, "well, since basically no one else is going, I probably won't come now."  I was floored.  These girls are not invisible. They deserve to be included, and feel the Spirit.
Jen, one of the girls, did not even notice the dis, and continued texting and calling others, hoping some of the local boys were home from college and could come.
I geared up my lesson for just them, (they both know very little about the Book of Momon or the Gospel)
Last week  I spent 1/2 hour with just them and we had  a great lesson about angels.
So, I get lazy, and it is super cold and snowy, and I ask dad, "since it is only a few people coming, do you think I can just wear jeans and boots and my warm sweater I had on?  Now, dad is over me, speaking in church language, and he gave me permission.
I head out the door with 10 wrapped, flavored chap sticks, lots of Christmas cookies, hot chocolate, and a good attitude, thinking how I will bless these 2 girls lives.
ha ha. and then The Lord says, Karen needs to learn something here.
I get to church, and there is Eric, a returned missionary from Brazil, and 2 new missionaries from the 2nd ward, sitting in the front row, ready for a deep, well-taught Institute lesson.  I sneak in, embarrassed to be in jeans, and my mind starts racing. I had to do some rearranging of my lesson, and quick.
The girls come, and, low and behold, so does this young man.
So I had 6, and we had a great class, and the Lord blessed me with some semblance of sanity, and we had a great discussion.

  1. I will never wear jeans again
  2. I will never cancel Institute due to how many respond on FB
  3. I will always do  my best on my lesson, no matter who is attending
  4. I will continue to learn real Christlike love for all, even the guy who faked me out and I judged him out and then he came through in the end
  5. people are wonderful, and all have something to give 
The gift was from Jen and Nicole, along with a card that said they loved me.  And they really do. Not because I am a good teacher, or because I help them, but because they know how to really truly love people. And it is I who learn from them.  


Monday, November 04, 2013

Kathy Marie Wall Cox

Kathy came into the world as expected, on November 4th, 1987,  quite different than the first two birth experiences.   We knew it would be a C-section, and we chose the day.  It was so easy; pack, wake up, and go to the appointment.  No pain.  No worries.  Bret & Jacob spent the day with grandma Wall. 
We also had the name chosen for years.  If I had 2 girls, one would be Kathy,  named after my sister and best friend.  The other would be Alexa, named after my other best friend from grade school all the way to high school.  I loved her name, and she was the only Alexa I knew.  (My sister also loved the name, hence, Sarah's daughter is Alexa)   I am glad we now have a Lexi.
Kathy was expensive.  We had no health insurance at that point, but knew we would probably have a c-section, and just saved money for it.  
Because we lived in Salt Lake, we had plenty of help from Grandma Wall, other family members, and the ward brought in meals for 5 nights.  Dad & I fondly remember having 3 nights of chicken soup, but all totally different tasting.  We had some great cooks in our ward.
She cried a lot, and by her 2 week check up, she already had an ear infection, which explained why she was so fussy.  However she continued to be a fussy, colicky baby until she was six months old, when she learned to such her finger.  She also did not sleep through the night until then. 
It had taken us 4 years to be blessed with a girl after having Jacob.  We wanted more children, and prayed and fasted.  Two miscarriages came and went, sadly, and I found myself longing for another child.  We finally decided to try to adopt.  We started going through the paperwork.  It was at my physical for the adoption that the doctor told me I was pregnant. 
Before she was born, Kathy was reaching out to me.  I had two amazing spiritual experiences with her.  One was in the temple, after I knew I was expecting.  I was told as clear as day that I was having a little blond girl.  I could almost see her.  It was surreal.
I had another visit from her in our home, before she was born, that is too tender and special to blog about, but I also can remember it very clearly and how I felt.
Bret was so happy when Jacob was born, and he wanted even more siblings; so this was thrilling to him. He held  her and watched over her and of course became our babysitter. He was great with babies and children.  
We felt so blessed with 3 children.  Dad was at the end of his PhD, and life was awesome!  Because I had had so much trouble getting pregnant, we didn't know if we would be blessed with more children or not.   Right before Kathy turned 1, we moved to start our new life with IBM in NY, and dad bought our first brand new car, a Ford Escort.  (which, didn't fit a family of six!)   Our 4th blessing, Tom, came soon after, and we were complete!   

Thursday, October 31, 2013

Bronx Zoo

We actually did something spur-of-the-moment!  Kind of...  Dad & I have wanted to visit the Bronx zoo on a Wednesday for several months. (Wednesdays are free, sort of).   It has been hard for him to get a day off of work, or, the weather did not cooperate.
With his new boss, they now have daily meetings, and he has been leery of missing them.
Yesterday, he woke up, noticed a meeting had been cancelled, rearranged his whole schedule, and asked me to go to the zoo.
 Well, another hard thing about Wednesdays is that I set that day aside to work on my lesson.  This week was Jacob 5, and the class voted to delve into it deeply.  Yikes.  Hard stuff for me.  I always read that chapter with an attitude: too many who is grafting who in where questions for me.
Until this week. I studied and studied.  So, I thought I had it mostly down, and accepted the date.
We had so much fun!  It is not a kid-friendly zoo.  The animals are far apart. There is a lot of walking.
I thought I found directions to the best parking lot- fail on my part, so we had to walk even farther to most of the exhibits.
Although it was free, there are at least 6 separate exhibitions that cost additional money. I have never paid the extra $5. to see the gorillas there, and have always wanted to.  I find them fascinating, ever since I was a child.  We had a favorite gorilla in the Cleveland zoo we new by name, and he loved whenever my sister came in.
So dad decided to pay the money and get an all-included pass to everything, since the entrance was free.
Total - 15 parking, 15 more each for this pass=  45 for a free day at the zoo.  Classic.
The $3 butterfly house was a disappointment to dad. I had seen it before, but with the cool weather, there were only about 20 butterflies flying around, and only 3 species visible.  He was sad.
We took a ride on the Asian monorail, which was a lovely ride in the beautiful fall trees, with few and far between animals; mostly different kinds of deer, one elephant, and a huge bengal tiger.  We enjoyed it, but again, if we had little ones, they may have found it long and boring.  ($5 each a ride)
The gorillas were fun.  The baboons super active.  We enjoyed an overpriced sandwich and soda, and walked some more.
This zoo does an amazing job of scenery and showcasing the animals. There are just not many animals.
Neither of us had a favorite.  We really just loved being together, taking a day off, and walking along in the cool beauty of the fall here in NY.
The last time I went was with Kathy's grade school class. They stopped all city field trips since 9/11.
Side note: 2 of the paid exhibits are dinosaur themed.  What is that about?  They aren't real animals.
The zoo has a lot of space, but evidently not enough money for more animals. The one worker told us that the 22 yr old polar bear was going to die in the next year or two, and they would not replace him.  He claims they don't do well in zoos.
PS- my class stunk, I was lost and just did a terrible job, but, it was all worth it.
Fun day!  Thanks dad!