Wednesday, February 02, 2011

Cool weather phenomen

After all the snow yesterday, about 3 am, it started dropping ice crystals, which were heavier than the snow. We heard them hitting the window all the rest of the night.
They are still coming down.
It was interesting to see how these crystals formed the snow into all kinds of cool formations; canyons, arches, etc.  Dad said it looked like the Utah Arches.  We even got our own little arch, if you can see it in the pic.
The first picture is how much snow we had before this storm.  Then the little arches and edges and point formations, then how it mad the snow on our table outside form, after knocking down all the lighter outer snow.
arches
Hope you enjoy!  Yes, I have a lot of time on my hands..  Everything is closed today and tonight.  No Institute again. And poor dad left his computer cord at work.  (I know, I know, he should have 2)
Oh oh, the first picture didn't work.  I hope you can see the cool formations!

Friday, January 28, 2011

calorie counting stinks

Okay, so dad I have been counting numbers for 2 full weeks: dad carbs and I, calories.
Dad's sugar levels were up & down throughout the holidays, so he has been much more careful and it really keeps his levels even.
I have stayed under 1,500 calories, no cheating, I promise, for 2 full weeks, and lost 1/2 lb.
And I am exercising.
What the pie am I doing wrong?
How many calories should an old lady like me have per day?  Is 1,500 still too much?
I haven't even had any chocolate at all, or not a single cookie.  I only weigh myself on Fridays, so I don't get discouraged.
Tadah!  Today is Friday, and I am discouraged and ever so tempted to just go buy some m&ms.
Dad says I look thinner, but?
Any suggestions out there?
Why do all these new diets on all the popular TV shows say, "lose 5 lbs in a week"?
That must be when you are young and under 50.
I told dad I would do it for one month, as it is hard to count everything, especially when you cook from scratch  like we do.  We add it all together and actually use measuring cups to see how much we are eating.
Dad is doing great!  And he weighs less than me, so sad.

Thursday, January 27, 2011

Pathfinder

I can't even think of the last time that I book I read inspired  me this much!  I am not saying the book was one of those, entertaining- I can't put it down kinds.  
It made me want to be a better person, to discipline myself more, to learn more, to gain more skills and develop more talents.  It encouraged me to keep studying scriptures and gaining knowledge.
It was hard to follow in some cases, (maybe not for some of you, but for me), so I may actually read it again.
I love the was the author throws in deep Mormon doctrine here and there.
I love books about time travel, as I know it is a real concept and just another dimension.
Great read!

Monday, January 24, 2011

Favorites 2011

Yeah, I don't know if these count as 2010 favorites late or what. But here are the results of last night's FHE festivities:













Bret
Tevia
ColorRedGreen
AnimalOtterHorse
Actor/ActressAngelina JolieChris Evans
FoodChicken Tikka MasalaMexican Food
Fictional CharacterBoba FettNOT ANSWERED
Item of ClothingBasketball shortsWorkout Clothes
WeaponLightsaberMace
InstrumentDrumPiano
Candy BarKit KatReeses PB Cup
Media TypeBooksBooks














Jarek
Malik
ColorRedCeurlean
AnimalCheetahLion
Actor/ActressJack BlackNOT ANSWERED
FoodHomemade Cruchy TacosBacon & Sausage
Fictional CharacterTom Dennis
Fitzgerald
Oshawat
Item of ClothingTurtlenecksSocks
WeaponLaser Scythe Three
Blaster Extension
M.O.A.B. (Mother of
All Bombs)
InstrumentCrash CymbalsElectricity
Candy BarNestle CrunchHershey Bar
Media TypeBooksNintendo














Enok
Hazel
ColorGreenPurple
AnimalSheepHorsie
Actor/ActressNOT ANSWEREDTom Kenny (voice of Spongebob)
FoodNoodlesFruit Snacks
Fictional CharacterMarioDora
Item of ClothingShirt & PantsHappy Birthday Shirt
WeaponGunEek
InstrumentNOT ANSWEREDDrums
Candy BarChocolate BarMilky Way
Media TypeNOT ANSWEREDTV















Jacob
Cari
ColorOrangeGreen
AnimalWater MonitorTarsier
Actor/ActressSteve ZahnChris Pine
FoodPastramiAlfredo
Fictional CharacterBoba Fett "Purple Rage"Meliara (from Crown Duel)
Item of ClothingCleatsCashmere Robe
WeaponCerebral BoreDisk (from Tron)
InstrumentPianoOboe
Candy BarCharleston ChewToffee Bar
Media TypeVideo GamesBooks















Jimmy
Kathy
ColorBlueBlue
AnimalOrcaDolphin
Actor/ActressDenzel WashingtonWill Smith
FoodPizzaPizza
Fictional CharacterMaverick (from Top Gun)Hermione or Yoshi
Item of ClothingPJ PantsHoodie & Jeans
WeaponJavelin (the missile launcher)RCP 90
InstrumentPianoPiano
Candy BarCookies & Cream BarAlmond Joy
Media TypeMoviesBooks


Speed passed due to his non-ability to say anything besides "dada", "baba", and "mama" (which he only says when he's really upset).

Risa also played but I never got her paper and I didn't want to try to just remember them because I'd probably get them wrong and say her favorite fictional character was Bella Swan. And then she'd have to throw a pencil at my head. :-D

Sunday, January 16, 2011

agog with the blog

I was forgetting some things about our last desert trips.  Blog at the rescue!  Easy to find the 2007, 2008, and 2009 accounts.  Fun to read. I highly suggest reading them.  Bret used the word saudade to describe the 2007 one.  Cool!  Malik, do you remember Luke and how you became good friends?   Cari, the picture of Hazel peaking out of the tent is adorable.  And who can forget Jacob trying to roast a pineapple, and Millie roasting some  candy.  And Andy's fall, and the rescue.  The pictures, the dirt, the wind, the memories!
Looking forward to it!

Saturday, January 15, 2011

Tom

We woke up this morning with this written in the snow.  Ha ha, yes, I miss Tommy so much, but I didn't do it!
It just so happens the neighbors little boy is Tom.

Thursday, January 13, 2011

Good old Orson Scott Card

The last 3 books I read, I just could not get into them.  I didn't finish 2, and forced myself to finish the Sisters Grimm, which I was given for Christmas.  It sounded like it would be creative and fun. I could have written it better myself in 2 days.
So, I am between book club books, so I picked up the book Bret or Jacob got dad, Pathfinder. (Sorry, I forget who, and dad is not here to ask)
Now we're talking!  I have only read 2 chapters, and I am enjoying it.  I must like Orson's style.  He already brought out time/space travel stuff, which I always enjoy.
And a new secret skill that I have not seen before!
And, a new concept to me about how they kept a calendar,  which has totally intrigued me.  I want to do it!
So happy again to be reading a book I like.
Our book club was picked by Bruce Hawks, for the couples month in Feb, so husbands are to join us. Dad read it. I couldn't  make it through.  All Quiet on the Western Front.  War, sadness, horrible graphic details, ugh.  Several men in our ward have told me to finish it because it is quite philosophical.  Too bad. They can just tell me about it without me having to read it all.
Our next book I get to pick, and I am choosing Fablehaven, even though I read it. We need a nice, easy read after this, and most of the mothers have wanted to read it anyways. And dad wants to also someday.
He has started the book by the Historian of West Point, who is a Mormon, and on our high council. He wrote one of those fictional histories, called "Called to Serve".  I think it is about the Mormon battalion.  He is liking it so far.

Wednesday, January 12, 2011

Kindness

Monday Tevia was not feeling well so I decided to work from home in order to help support her andgive her more opportunity to rest and get well. One way to help was to take the boys to school. We don’t live too far from the school, but because school starts so early (7:30) and our boys are a little slow, we often drive them to the corner so they don’t have to walk as far. They always walk home, but mornings can be tough so early.

I drove the back way up two streets and we laughed as we talked about the day and how they should be good and kind, etc. As usual they were so full of energy and love and we kissed and hugged and I watched as they started towards the school. After a few yards I noticed Malik was having some struggles carrying his violin case. He had a big jacket on and his backpack and trying to keep the violin in hand and walk quickly to the school was a challenge for him. As I watched I thought of how such a simple task can be so difficult for some people. But he wasn’t complaining or crying, but you could see he kept adjusting it and trying to find the best way to hold it. I wished that I could get out and carry it for him. But I didn’t think he would appreciate his dad getting out of the car and then taking his violin. Maybe he would have liked that – but I didn’t.

And then I saw Jarek walk over to him and without a word take the violin case out of his hand and carryit for him. This small act of love nearly brought me to tears as I watched Jarek – who isn’t all that much bigger or stronger – sacrifice for his little brother. He did it with a smile as they walked up the sidewalk. I marveled at the kindness of the gesture – and at the ability Jarek had to even notice an opportunity to help. I was touched that our children care for each other and despite their weaknesses look for opportunities to serve. Jarek didn’t know I was watching him. Carrying the violin would have been nearly as difficult for Jarek as it was for Malik. But he did it to help his brother and show his love for him.

As I drove home I was grateful for that small experience. I thought about it often as I went through the day and decided I need to look for more opportunities to serve those around me. You can learn a lot from your kids.

Tuesday, January 04, 2011

Friday, December 31, 2010

Hazel's Christmas Gift From Santa



This was Hazel's first fun game on her Crayola Computer Santa gave her for Christmas. We were amazed at how fast she learned to use the mouse.

Thursday, December 30, 2010

New Year stuff, predictions, goals, and favs

A year or 2 ago, we made some pretty cool predictions; like where Tom would go on his mission, if Jake or Bret would move, etc.
Let's try some for this year.  Any predictions out there?
I know people are guessing when Tommy will get married, and who.  I personally think he will take plenty of time and have fun dating for awhile and not hurray things along.  I don't think he will be married till at least the very end of 2011 or later.
Will we move to AZ?
Any other babies coming?
Will the world end?
Any other big events to look forward to?  Jarek gets the priesthood.
Will Cari or Jacob quit their job?

Next:
I miss doing favorites- 
Let's all do favorite books and movies they saw and read this year.
Tev & Bret, ask Jarek his too.

If anyone wants to share any good goal ideas, feel free.  I still have to figure them out, so it will be a week before I formulate them into a plan.

Wednesday, December 29, 2010

A Great Day!

I had a great day on Monday. First I had a great and restful sleep. I knew it would be our last sleep in Kathy and Jimmy's home on Carol Ann Way. Thanks to them for the nice stay we had there. It was so restful and accommodating. Very much appreciated. Then I went right over to Jake's and up on the roof. I skipped breakfast. Did not want it! I had been so concerned because I had estimated the project poorly, and I felt bad that things were askew with essentially no time remaining. But we did have another day. Then I had a great day working with Tom. What a treat and a pleasure that was for me. Thanks Tom for the great day and also all the other days on the roof. But this day was especially great because, we knew it was the last but more importantly, we made so much progress and saw all our plans coming together. It was a perfect day on the roof. So much fun, we just skipped lunch. How often do workers do that? Only on a great day. Thanks again to everyone that gave time during the important Christmas season to help. Jacob, Jimmy, Bret, Tom, and even Cari worked on the house lights, and Karen made some trips to the store. Sorry for the pain it caused. I really did not think it would be that big of a job. Then I had a great evening. I felt physically good! Better everyday. I think our bodies are amazing to respond to our needs so quickly and well. Except for my tooth ache (unrelated to the roof) I was feeling good. We had some good food brought by Karen and Cari. Thanks so much, my taco's were great. Finally, we got a great lift to the Air Port by Bret and Tev and a warm good bye. Oh yea, and a great ride home through the peaceful night of the great day. It was a great day. Thanks to all for making it happen for me. Strange that such would be great, when it was so full of work and responsibility. But I would not change it for a thousand movies, or naps, or meals. It was great all by itself.

Sunday, December 19, 2010

Too much travel

The past few weeks have been crazy, frustrating, and emotional. After asking my company to halt all travel for the rest of the year after more than 8 weeks of travel this year in early November I was told “no problem”, especially when I shared the health issues we have had with our kids. But not one week later I was asked to travel again – and ended up spending a few day in Houston for three of the past four weeks.

I donned my Superman cape and went to work, though admittedly with a chip on my shoulder and frustration at my company. I had been to Houston one time in the past for a business trip and was unimpressed. This time I was down in a town called Sugar Land (southwest of Houston) and got a very different impression. The area was gorgeous and the office and homes around it were very nice. Here are the highlights of my time in Houston:


Renting cars. I found that after driving a Chevy Impala, Chevy Tahoe and a Ford Fusion that I was most impressed with the Fusion. Apparently Chevy sucks.

The office I worked at has mostly employees from Saudi Arabia. Upon my first trip to the restroom I noticed it didn’t have any urinals. I thought this a little odd but thought perhaps it was a cultural thing. Upon entering the stall I noticed a tampon dispenser and all of the sudden wondered if in fact I had gone into the wrong bathroom. I hurriedly finished my business and then left to verify hoping no women entered while I was there. Upon exiting I found that it was the men’s room. I was relieved – apparently they just changed up the bathrooms at some point and never bothered to take out the old women’s paraphernalia.

The food. I found my possibly favorite restaurant while there. The first day there (my first week) I looked on Google Maps and Foursquare to see if I could find any fun, good places to eat. I was intrigued by the name of one called Japaneiro’s (which looked like a combination of Japan and habeneiros). I read more details and found that indeed it was a fusion restaurant of sushi and Mexican (latin American), which are two of my favorites. I ate there every single day I was in Houston from that day forth. My favorite thing on their menu? An avocado soup with crab in it. It is heaven. Another favorite was the Hawaiian roll which had spicy tuna, avocado, and a coconut sauce on it. I also fell in love with Chick-Fil-A’s Spicy Chicken sandwich. It is awesome. Those two restaurants took up 90% of my eating time while in Houston.

The temple. I also had the privilege to attend the temple once while there. It was a beautiful temple in a very upscale neighborhood. The session was very small and it was of great comfort following the news of my boys’ heart conditions.

Thursday, December 09, 2010

Atop the Rock

Dad & I braved the cold yesterday to take the train to the city to celebrate our 29 anniversary, which is next week, but dad will be on a roof all day.
I wasn't sure how far I could walk, but my back is improving daily, and we decided to try it and not do too much.
We love taking the train and watching the sites along the river.
We wanted to see the Rockefeller tree, and maybe go to the top. Dad thought it was $30 ea, so he has not wanted to try it before.  It was a clear, sunny day, and we figured it wouldn't be too crowded yet being cold and in early December.
We found out it was only $21., and the line was very short.
It was an amazing view of the whole area!  Wow!
We bundled up and walked to Time Square, stopped in the M&M store, then looked for a place to eat.  The Prettymans had just gone to Bubba Gump Shrimp, and they liked it, so we thought we would take  a chance just for the fun of it.  It was fun!  We thought we would be paying extremely high prices just for the name, but it was pretty reasonable for the city, and the food was delicious, and our table was right at the window in Times Square. Dad loves doing that!
We walked back to Grand Central, and I made it just about when my back was getting sore and my leg heavy. Dad had agreed beforehand that we could take a cab if I needed to, which gave me just that extra piece of mind.
It was fun being just us and having dad's attention and seeing all the sites.  The spirit of the holiday season was everywhere!  People singing, even the employees in the stores!  We both rested on the train all the way home.
We found out we can go to the Met Art Museum for free, so that will be our next stop as we try to hit some landmarks here before we move.

Sunday, December 05, 2010

More Christmas fun!

I wonder if Speed will have this light blond hair Jacob had.
The girls, Tevia & Kathy, busy decorating gingerbread houses.
Tommy & Santa
One of our many Christmas eve plays.

Need a little Christmas

I baked Christmas cookies yesterday, and missed having someone to decorate them with. It brought back so many fond memories of the holiday season.  Dad will be gone all day from morning to maybe 7 or 8pm today.
I am hoping to write out Christmas cards, but I am not in the mood.
So I thought I'd bring out some good old Christmas memories.
For those who have never seen a Christmas sage brush:  in this picture Bret is in front of the flocked sage brush that we nabbed out in the country somewhere in Utah.  Dad's family had done it several times, maybe to save money, who knows, but we were also on a pretty tight budget, and I think we did a sage tree twice, maybe 3 times.  I think it was pretty!  This is also the brand new bike santa brought Bret.  Bret can maybe relate that story to his kids- the good old 'treasures of the earth, where moth doth eat and thieves corrupt....", something like that.  Bret, you were always so cute and handsome! Still are!
The second pic it Kathy & Tommy, all bundled up so cute and warm.
I will try to find one of Jacob later.

Enjoy!

Friday, November 26, 2010

4 kids in 1 room w/5

I want to let you all know that seeing you all together last night in one place for Thanksgiving was amazing!  I feel we have been so blessed to have that actually happen.  I am grateful for each one of you, and the time and effort you put in to making our family celestial.
I may not have been there this year, but it brought joy and comfort  to me knowing you were all together, and with all my grandchildren!
It just warmed my heart.
As we start planning next year, dad & I just figured out that will be hard to do, as he is seriously looking for a job down there right after the holidays.  If he finds one, we will pray about it, and who knows?
I guess I better not buy tickets yet for a desert trip from NY.... but, we do need to decide when that will be when we are together during the holidays.
See you all soon!

HP 7

I know all of us have not seen this, so I won't add any spoilers.
Dad and I just got back from seeing it.  I liked it more than I usually do HP< probably cause I hadn't read the book
The interesting thing worth a blog note was what dad said after the movie:
" Wearing a _______ (forgot the word and dad already went out running, but you know, the necklace thingy) - well, wearing one of those is like going low"  ha ha
I thought that was funny.

Wednesday, November 24, 2010

The Hunger Games

This is a warning for those who have not finished this series, some of the ending will be spoiled, I will mention little details though.

My Review :

As I read through the first book of the series, The Hunger Games, I found a very interesting storyline, that was written well enough to grab the readers attention, and I must say I was impressed with the author's ability to create curiosity and captivate the reader's mind, forcing him to keep reading. A page turner, with some depth, but not as well written as I would've liked.

When I read the second book, Catching Fire, my opinion changed. I felt that the author created a fun story and ended the book in a very good spot. I enjoyed this book greatly and was looking forward to the third. I was excited and hopeful for the thrilling finish of such a well created story and good idea. When I read the third, Mockingjay, I was greatly disappointed, let me explain why.


To explain why I think I must explain a little about hope.

Hope is a powerful thing. It is literally the anchor of our souls. It is the belief that through obedience to our Heavenly Father, and through doing good, we can and will in the end find eternal joy. True happiness that fills the soul and never leaves. This hope gives us purpose, gives us determination and diligence. I am grateful for hope in my life, which can be centered on my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, for it is through Him that we can achieve this eternal joy.

In book 1 and 2, the author constantly builds our hope as a reader that if our hero(?), Katniss succeeds at something that everything will be better. But as things continue to work out as the reader and Katniss would have hoped, joy never enters the series. By the end of book 2 the author has built up a great hope that if Katniss and the rebel forces can take down the Capital and Snow, that everything will be right again, that true happiness will enter their lives.

Well in book 3 we find that things continue to pan out perfectly for our little hero(?). Things turn out perfectly, exactly as the reader would have hoped, but even after everything goes right, the author brings no peace into the story. Katniss finds no joy in her life, in her family, in her offspring, in anything. I believe the author alludes to Katniss living out the rest of her life in fear and despair as do all the others.

The last 20 pages of this book cause great sadness and why, because the author, I believe, destroys the reader's hope. Everything one would have wanted to happen does, but nothing seems right at the end. Sadness prevails and one feels greatly depressed as if their own lives were unfulfilling as well. Despair replaces hope as the reader's conscience begins to feel that no matter what, we are doomed to an unhappy finite ending, where we can never truly be happy, because even after all went well in the story, we are still miserable with the outcome.

The ploy that after all that Katniss and others have gained at the end that they cannot throw off their fear and old injuries and be truly happy with their highly priced freedom they have purchased with so much blood is a total falsity. It could never happen. Life brings happiness, it is ridiculous to try to write a book to say otherwise.

I hated the ending. The last 20 pages toyed so much with my emotions I actually became angry about it. I do not like when an author tries to create sadness and despair in a world that so desperately needs hope, and this author not only does a good job at destroying the reader's hope, but actually excels at it.

Removing the fact that the book causes one to wallow in sorrow after finishing it, the series is still degrading. If we carefully examine this series we find horrible themes rampant through out the entire thing. It is based on an idea that children, yes, children will fight to the death, brutally. The idea itself is sickening, and I stick with Jacob that it is completely unrealistic, a society could never decay to that point. A parent could never demand that another parent's child be sent to the Hunger Games. Apparently humans are cold animals in the author's eye. The series also constantly makes, drug use, alcohol, body mutilation and prostitution all seem acceptable as people try to escape reality to find happiness. It seems it is also acceptable to describe horrible deaths and graphic scenes. In fact the series takes our sacred bodies, temples given to us by God, and puts them at 0 value. People are constantly changing themselves, are constantly immodest (usually naked), and sleeping together under the age of 18. Sex is portrayed as only a necessary way to keep the species alive with nothing sacred about it. Lies and deceit, blackmail, fame and power, the idea of mistrust (no one is ever trustworthy in the books...they are apparently all two-faced). This book depicts a society that has no God and no morals, no happiness and zero charity. No true heroes exist, even Peeta is apparently hijacked and turned into a menace at the end, unable to recover.

Overall, I believe that Mormon made it very clear for us how we can judge what comes from God and what comes from Satan. Unlike most series or shows or stories, I found no inspiration in this book. It did not make me want to be a better person, or even try to be. I do not want to aspire to be like any of these characters. I judge this series to be inspired by the adversary. The Spirit had no role in inspiring any part of this story.

What do I think of The Hunger Games series?

In the words of Max Hall, "I don't like it, in fact I hate it, I hate everything about it... its classless." I add, its dangerous. Its dangerous to have this view on life, that we are only cold animals with no divine potential, and its sad that someone can truly look at the world this way.

What do you think?

Happy Thanksgiving to all!

We all have much to be thankful for this year!

Tuesday, November 23, 2010

People Make a Big Difference

I spent several hours at the same hospital over the past few days. After two days doing exactly the same thing I have come to realize how much of a difference a person - or people - can make in the lives of others. Friday was a wonderful day at the hospital. Everyone was kind, fun, and nice as we made our way through a scary and stressful situation. In fact, the one doctor made me jealous as I thought how wonderful it must be to be able to impact people's lives in such a great way. Monday was the opposite. From the moment we checked in people were rude, mean and annoying. They did nothing to make our time their comfortable and we left frustrated and exhausted. The difference? The people. Same hospital, same tests, same check-in procedure, etc. Completely different experience. It made me want to be the type of person that has a positive effect on people's lives, and not the opposite - like the Monday crew at the hospital.

Wednesday, November 10, 2010

Spiritual trek

I am on my 3rd day of a 2 week spiritual trek.   I am  combining it with a physical journey as well.
It has been awesome!  I am focusing on the spiritual more, and it makes such a difference in life.
I felt the desire this morning to share this quote by Richard G Scott:
"The essential things must be accomplished during your testing period on earth.  They must have first priority.
They must not be sacrificed for lesser things, even though they are good and worthwhile accomplishments.
After this life, you will be restored to that which you have HERE allowed yourself to become.  OH, if I but had the capacity to communicate the peace and serenity that  come from knowing that you and your family have worthily received all of the saving ordinances and the corresponding covenants are being righteously kept."
"We knew that we would be tested here. Part of that testing here is to have so many seemingly interesting things to do that we can forget the main purposed for being here.  Satan works very hard so that the essential things won't happen."
I love that you are all baptized and attending the temple.  It does bring me great peace.  Thank you for keeping your covenants, and blessing your children and each other with your great examples.
"In this there is safety, in this, there is peace."

Monday, November 08, 2010

Best and Worst of Times

I always thought this opening was dumb, but at this point I can see that these two things can actually coexist. It has been the worst of times ever since we learned about our sons’ cardiomyopathy. It is difficult to go through all of the emotions, scenarios, and possibilities when you hear something like that. Being an optimist I have tried very hard to keep positive thoughts and have faith that things will work out fine. But there definitely are times you imagine the worst. And when Malik was shown to have the same thing as Jarek, it was hard not to imagine a future with only one son. Visions of the future without my two oldest sons are nightmares. Feelings from anger to thoughts on “fairness” and then pity for my boys have been rotating with faith and hope and gratitude for the time I have with them.

At first we didn’t tell anybody as we wanted to get all of the details before sharing our burden, but I did take some time to share with one of my employees who has had cancer. She talked about how hard it was to tell her husband and son, and how she realized they had to live one day at a time. “Tomorrow might be terrible,” she would tell them, “but today is good.” And though we still have to find out the details on the severity of their condition, I can’t help but think of things more in the “now” than in the future. I have never been one to live very far in the future, but this has brought me back even more. Even things like planning vacations and meals turn to “where would Jarek want to go?” or “what dinner does Malik want to eat?” Prayers change to focusing on shorter-term things like “please let them live to experience love and go on a mission” as opposed to worrying about their careers. Your perspective changes and suddenly some things just don’t seem that important.

It is a blessing to have Tevia by my side. And if there was a year that it would have been nice to have family by my side, this is the year. I am so grateful to have my siblings near during this time and to feel their love; not only for me, but for my children. What greater gift could we want for our children?

And that is how it has also been the best of times. As we recently returned from a wonderful trip to Utah, I couldn’t help but think back on the time we had up there. It was a blessing. The baptism we attended was one of the best I have ever been to. The game was amazing. As I sat in the sun looking at my sons, my wife and many of those I love most, it was awesome to enjoy a great game and smile, laugh, and cheer. An intimate evening with close friends was needed as we exchanged heartbreaks and hopes about our children and lives. Even the car ride home was exceptional as the last two legs I drove with Kathy, Jimmy, and Tommy and we discussed life, gospel principles and shared our ideas and lives. I was reminded of the great support team I have to be there for me in times like this. To remind me why we are here and what is important. A wife to hold me as I try to be strong as she sheds tears on my shoulder. Two sons who have shown more bravery than any men I have ever met. And this is when I realize it is the best of times.

I have lived a charmed life. But I know we need trials and pain in our lives to improve. It sucks, but I understand it. Let’s just hope I still have some of that charm left.

Saturday, November 06, 2010

feeling lonely

Released from the temple, then YW, counted down 730 days till Tom got home, and now he is already gone, people keep moving away....
Watched Jayne Eyre last night.
What do we do on a Saturday  night besides tv?
I guess we are so used to the church keeping us busy.  This weekend, we had no Saturday church activity.  You would think we would be thrilled.  Well, we are. It feels good to not have to go anywhere.
Maybe it is a Bourne kind of night.

Monday, November 01, 2010

Halloween and Other Happenings

Apparently I messed up some setting on our camera, so most of the pictures I've taken lately have been really blurry. Here's an assortment of the better ones.

Hazel at the pumpkin farm

Our pumpkin - I carved and Hazel drew

Hazel as Baby Princess Peach - I went for simple and easy this year.
Speed as Baby Mario. He was apparently too tired to give us a proper smile.

The chocolate covered Oreos I made on Halloween with this cool mold my mother-in-law sent me. The spiders were pretty fail but I think the skulls turned out pretty good.
Would it be weird to say I'm glad Halloween is over? I'm just looking forward to Thanksgiving and Christmas so much that Halloween was really just a stepping stone this year. On to more holidays!!!

Wednesday, October 27, 2010

Dad's 5 K win

Dad has had an 8 year goal to beat a certain time in his IBM 5 K.  He did it this year!  I am so proud of him!  He did it in 24:35!  He was happy and he was glad he had continued to run.  Good job honey!!!!

Tuesday, October 26, 2010

Visit to Cleveland

It had been a long time since I saw my family, almost a year. 
We did 22 hours of driving. 
It was worth it, sore back and all.
We started out doing sealings in the DC temple. 
We hit tons of DC traffic, but made it to Sarah's in time, just after we stopped for dinner at Applebees.  
Sarah's kids were waiting for us at the door in their pjs, and this time Trevor was not one bit shy, nor Alexa.
They were truly excited to have visitors.  They proceeded to show us their many treasures and toys, till they had to go to bed.  Alexa was saddened by this news, but, as all good children do, she went up to bed crying and fell asleep holding her blanket and bear.  Trevor was allowed to say up 15 min later, and snuck down the stairs a few times to peak at us playing a game. He eventually gave up and also fell asleep.
We played a new game I am buying for Christmas.  I am thinking that since we played it once, we have a better chance of beating the rest of you during the holidays.  It was fun, and dad won, followed by Tom.  They were surprised to see how good we play strategy games.  (I use the pronoun 'we' loosely)
We slept well in their spare room, and Eric made us healthy whole wheat pancakes with homemade maple syrup like dad's family used to make .  
We left at 8:15 am, as they had a birthday party for Trevor at 9 am at Chuck E Cheese, and we had a long drive ahead of us.
Mom looked older, and more frail. She now has a perm.  My sister and Fred had come in to town the day before to set everything up, prepare dinner, and keep mom calm.  She was so excited to see us all!  The 4 of us children were all together for the first time since the reunion we had that one August.
The extra guy in the pic is Jesse's fiance, Dan.  
All enjoyed being together and talking.  My sister planned a spiritual program to honor Tom, and asked him questions about his mission.  He did an excellent job bearing his testimony and answering her questions, like; did you feel God protecting you?  Did you see any miracles?  She is just awesome!  It went very well and I am glad she did it with Frank and Jesse there.
We slept at Michaels, went to church, and headed over to my dad's.  Carol made a delicious turkey and dressing meal, which dad especially loved.  
She surprised us all by bringing out pictures.  It was the first time ever I saw pics of her as a little girl.  She brought out a few old ones of great great grandpa Pylick and his brothers that I had never seen. Dad answered a few genealogy questions for me.  It was great!
We left at 3:13 for the long ride home.... 

Friday, October 22, 2010

Some Recent Pictures of Hazel & Speed - Enjoy!



And since the slideshow is being dumb (stupid Picasa!), here's a link if it doesn't work for you:
Speed's Latest

Tuesday, October 19, 2010

Just one of the guys

For years I have planned this coup to get my family to move to Arizona. There were several reasons I wanted it to happen (surprisingly I really like them), but there was one reason that has become fulfilled that reminds me of something I have been missing for the past couple of years: cool guys.

For the past couple of years –and really beyond that if you include while I was in Hong Kong – I just haven’t had a guy or group of guys to do “guy things” with. What are guy things? I’d list things like: having someone come over to watch a football game, go play a game of basketball or tennis at a moment’s notice, or even just work in the yard. A few of these things you can do by yourself, but it is much better with somebody else there.

For example, a little over a week ago when Max Hall was starting his first NFL game with the Cardinals, I was so excited. In the past I would have sat down and watched most of the game alone with many distractions and little interest from Tevia or even the boys. But when Jimmy (and Kathy, who I’ll admit is not a guy) came over to watch the game with me, it was a lot of fun. The fun factor went up significantly. And this was something I had been missing for some time. The fact that I can get Jake and Jimmy to come play ball in the morning – or tennis in the evening – adds to that extra fun in life.

I’m not sure why it seems I don’t run into a lot of “guys” these days. Certainly there are plenty of “males” around. But for whatever reason, it seems guys are a dying breed. They are out there. I see them on TV at the football and basketball games (though maybe most of these can’t actually play sports anymore). But for whatever reason it seems guys just start disappearing after the age of about 23 or 24. Maybe it is an indication of the Mormon culture, as certainly I interact with quite a few Mormons. Are they too busy with church and family to fit in “guy” time? Or have these things slowly become “evil”? I think there is some truth to the last statement (not that it is evil! But rather that people think this way). Morning basketball is a great example of where for years anytime something goes missing in the church it is always the fault of the morning basketball guys. It was only a few years ago when I was playing at a church on Tuesday evenings with quite a few non-members that eventually a local leader came in and said we could no longer play there – ever. This was after I had been playing there for nearly a year with some of the nicest guys I have ever played basketball with. Or have men slowly lost touch with their masculine side as they tend to get heavier? Or are women just keeping their men on shorter chains these days?

Maybe it is a combination of these things, but it isn’t just Mormons. I certainly could find plenty of guys out there to come watch a game (especially if I supplied the beer), but to get them to actually play a sport like football, basketball or tennis? That’s a whole other level. They just aren’t out there after a certain age.

But with the arrival and Jacob and Kathy and their respective “better halves” I have instant guys to do things with. They’ll play basketball, tennis, work in the yard, get tickets to a football game, watch sports, cook BBQ and just do guy things – which may even include some Madden (which we have yet to play). And once Tommy gets here we’ll have nearly a clan of guys – at least temporarily. If pops would ever wake up and realize the advantages of the “bros in the desert” he could add to this masculine mess and enjoy the fruits of guyhood (careful –t hat says GUYhood).

So a big bro hug to Little Brother Wall and James. Thanks for listening to the siren song of Phoenix. Thanks for being in good enough shape to actually do things (can’t wait to start up football!). And thank your wives for knowing that you are guys and need to get out and do things. Once we get that hottub set up we can get a TV out there, put in a rootbeer tap and create the ultimate man cave.

Saturday, October 09, 2010

When Hazel Met Dora

Earlier this year, I bought a zoo membership. This is not something I would normally do because I don't love zoos that much. But admission prices being what they are, if I used it even twice, it would pay for itself and then some. Turns out there are other perks to being a zoo member: early admission to the zoo and money off some of the special events for example. So this, our third trip to the zoo in two months, was one of those special events we got to attend for a reduced price.

Hazel and I woke up bright and early today to go to the zoo to meet....::drumroll please::.... Dora the Explorer! And by bright and early, I mean before the sun. Just goes to show how much I love my daughter that I'll wake up at 6 am on a Saturday.. :) It was a breakfast and play time with Dora, and considering Hazel's show preferences lately, I thought taking her to something that involved Dora would probably be a win.

We got there in good time and after a quick trip to the bathroom, I decided that waiting in line to take a picture with Dora should be done sooner than later. I had tried to explain to Hazel that we were going to go meet Dora, but I don't think she got it. Then I pointed Dora out to her...and she still didn't get it. When we were about third in line, she finally got a good look at her and shouted "DORA!" and grinned her biggest grin I've seen in a while. She ran right up to give Dora a high-five when it was our turn but she didn't want to stand there by herself, so that's why I got to be in the picture too.

I got us some breakfast and got us seats so Hazel could keep watching Dora if she wanted to. She did for a couple of minutes and then decided the food was more interesting. By the time we were about done eating, Dora was taking a break to do some "exploring" in the general direction of the restrooms. When Hazel saw Dora leaving, she shouted out "DORA! Bye-bye!". It was very cute. And when I say shouted, I mean shouted - we had several tables of people laughing at her cuteness.


After breakfast came the toys. Fischer-Price was sponsoring this whole thing, and they provided a nice variety of toys for all the kids to play with. Hazel's favorites were the Little People dolls and their accessories, especially the ones with swings and the house, and the Thomas the Train "choo-choos". There was one that I thought was pretty cool - you shone a light and the Thomas would chase it - I just looked it up and it's called Follow Me Thomas. So there are some good ideas for Christmas presents, those who have been asking. :)









After an hour and a half, I finally convinced Hazel that we'd had enough of the toys. She was a trooper and only cried for a minute until she realized that when I said we could go look at the animals, I meant "right now". On our way out of the Children's Zoo area, she got to pick between a backpack and a lunchbox (she picked a backpack, of course - you don't ever see Dora with a lunchbox, do you?) and she also got a Deigo toy, which she was very excited for.













Since the zoo had just opened to the general public, I decided that it was now or never to see the koalas, who are visiting the Phoenix Zoo until March. Last time we came (with the sole purpose to see the koalas) there was a 60 minute line so there was no way we were standing in that. Today it was only about 2 or 3 minutes, so that's a bit more doable. They were cute, but not doing a whole lot.















After that we checked out the giraffes, as usual. I think her fascination with the giraffes has less to do with those animals and more to do with the little tower you can climb to get a better look at them. Then I decided I wanted to take Hazel to see the tigers and lions. Now, what you need to understand (those of you not familiar with the Phoenix Zoo) is that the lions and the tigers are way, way, way far away from everything else. It's like the zoo has left a bunch of space to expand as they get more money, and it seems they stuck the lions and tigers out in the middle of it. But it was the only part of the zoo we hadn't seen yet on our various trips, so away we went.

I'm sure in reality, it's really not that far of a walk to this part of the zoo. But when you're trying to keep a tired 2 year old moving faster than a snail, trust me, it seems forever. Hazel invented a fun new game I like to call "Chase My Shadow" where I'd run ahead of her and she'd try to step on my shadow. (Kathy just taught her about shadows the other day.) So that helped keep her motivated and then we sang songs the rest of the way. I got a couple of weird looks for singing "Old MacDonald" all loud but whatever - Hazel was happy so I was happy.

Unfortunately, our walk didn't end up being worth much. The tiger was way in the back of his area hiding under a bush and the lions were sleeping with their backs to us. So I don't think Hazel actually saw them or recognized them for what they were. It was too bad, but at least I got some exercise. I had Hazel ride on my shoulders on the way back so we could get home some time before dinner.

After one more time up the giraffe tower, we went for our usual carousel ride, which Hazel really seemed to enjoy extra today for some reason. She gave her zebra lots of pats and kept saying "Nice zebra." Yes, it really was that adorable. And she kept tilting her head up to look at the top of the carousel as we went around - I think she's trying to figure out how it all works.

Then we headed over to the water fountain area so I could sit down for a bit and Hazel could go nuts in the water. At least I planned ahead this time and brought her swimsuit so she wouldn't have to ride home in just her unders like last time. As you can see, she had a blast.















Apparently, it was a successfully fun day as evidenced by the level of exhaustion she hit on the way home. It was very fun for me to spend some quality time with my girl. She is such a joy to have in my life and I love her so much.

Thursday, October 07, 2010

Hazel's Head

Here's the story of Hazel's head (sorry I got too lazy to take some pictures to make the narrative more interesting):

Last Sunday evening, mass chaos had ensued as 4 of the 5 adults in the house were busy making a large lasagna dinner for everyone. (I don't remember what Jacob was doing - most likely playing a computer game of some sort.) All of the sudden we heard a crash from Kathy and Jimmy's room - where Hazel was playing with their puppy, Dash. Knowing Hazel's fabulous track record with broken glass, I ran in quickly to assess the damage.

Upon viewing Hazel and Dash's relative positions, the best I could deduce was that Dash was behind the rocking chair and Hazel was in the rocking chair rocking back and forth, facing the back of the chair (probably trying to see Dash). One of my lovely Ikea lamps lived behind the rocking chair - you know, one of those lamps with the glass lampshade? Well, it looked like Hazel rocked a bit too hard at one point and knocked the glass lampshade into the wall, shattering the one side of it.

I grabbed Hazel and handed her off to Elyse (Kathy's friend who was visiting for the day) and helped Jimmy clean up the glass. After we got that dealt with, I went to go give Hazel a little hug and have a short talk about being soft with things that are made of glass. I took her hand to give it a kiss when I noticed that it was covered in dried blood.

I want to note that Hazel had not cried or whimpered or made any sound to indicate she was hurt at all. We did get a nice loud "UH-OH" at the time of the crash but by the time Hazel was sitting on Elyse's lap on the couch, I think they were talking about Dora or something else.

Anyway, I rushed Hazel into the bathroom to wash off her hand and try to see where she was cut. However, after much gentle rubbing and much examination, I found one teeny-tiny scratch that was so small, there was no way it could have produced that much blood.

So there I was, completely stumped, when I noticed Hazel's head....

On the lower left part of her head, the hair was completely matted with blood. I asked her if she had any owies and she patted that spot on her head and said "Head. Owie." I called for Jacob (he's much better with bigger wounds than I am - ok, better with any wounds than I am) and he got to work, washing it out, cleaning it with hydrogen peroxide, and most important, making sure there was no glass remaining in the cut.

Hazel was amazing. She NEVER cried at all. We got a few whimpers when the hydrogen peroxide first went on, but that was it. She was a very good girl and held very still while her daddy cleaned her cut and got all of the hair out of the way so we could assess the damage. That girl definitely has a high pain tolerance.

The cut was a very weird shape that we're all still a bit puzzled by - it was shaped like a capital I. But despite my initial worries, there was no glass stuck in the cut, so after Jacob finished cleaning it, he pulled out the handy-dandy super glue. Hazel was having a hard time not picking at it once the glue was on, so that's why she got her giant bandage.

We took the bandage off Tuesday evening, and I would've taken a picture, but there's not much to see right now. There's still too much hair stuck in with the glue. But it should start rubbing off in a couple more days so we'll be able to see what fun shape of scar she'll have.

Oh, Hazel-girl. You do keep life interesting!!!

Wednesday, October 06, 2010

wormwood- dad's 2 cents

Dad reminded me this morning that the word 'wormwood' is used a few times in the bible.  I looked it up this morning, and sure enough, it is. It is a very bitter herb, but used metaphorically as sorrow or calamity.

Monday, October 04, 2010

50 brownie points...

to whoever guesses what Hazel did to earn herself this lovely bandage...



Hint 1: No, she didn't just slap a big band-aid on her head.
Hint 2: No, we didn't have to take her to the hospital.

I'll post the story in a day or two.

screwtape

Dad & I are finding this book very difficult to read right before bed each night.  It is really hard to grasp each concept in each paragraph.  I was wondering if while you guys read it, you can kind of make notes to summarize what basic principle each chapter is trying to say?  Or we could divide it up by chapters and each take a few chapters to analyze and make notes for.  Or you probably are all smarter and have it all figured out already.

Saturday, October 02, 2010

The Train

I was determined to leave the office early on Friday. Tevia had witnessed that working abroad actually means “working” and hadn’t seen my home earlier than 7 or 8 pm most nights. I wanted Friday to be different and so urged my coworker to leave around 6 in order to catch the train and get back to the hotel by 6:30 or so. This would give me more hours to spend at dinner with Tevia as we began the beloved weekend.

We arrived at the train station as usual and waited on the platform. From time to time high speed trains would go by so quickly that you often wondered if anybody accidentally got hurt. The word from locals was that this happened from time to time, but not accidentally. It was a good spot to end one’s suffering. Our train quickly approached and we boarded. This train was a “double-decker” meaning it had two levels. We opted for the top level so we could have a better view of the Seine as we headed to Paris. After a minute or so we were greeted with an announcement in French. My understanding of French is minimal, but add an intercom to the language and it is basically inept. I heard a few words like “Paris” and “stop”. After the announcement a large amount of people exited the train. But we noticed a few people stayed on, and so we decided we would stick with the train as they probably just announced some delay (very common). After another few minutes the other people sitting by us exited, leaving us alone on the upper level. As we contemplated getting off the train started, closed its doors and headed down the track.

As it passed the first stop I got excited, thinking maybe it was going directly to Paris and wasn’t going to stop at any of the other stops, and thus getting us to the hotel even sooner. But after another few minutes the train began to slow down; and then it stopped. It hadn’t stopped at the next station, but rather in the middle of the track. There was no announcement. My mind began to race in trying to figure out what was going on when all of the sudden the trained turned off its engine and the lights went out. This is when your imagination can run wild.

I casually headed downstairs to verify the assumption: that we are alone. Confirmed. I then tried to go through the doors to the next car, but found that on this train you cannot move from car to car as the doors are locked. Many scenarios went through my mind. I wasn’t scared. My coworker was a little more concerned, but he basically stayed where he was and continued to state “I knew we shouldn’t have gotten on this train”. Here is a list that went through my head:
We can get out via an emergency exit but need to be careful as high speed trains also use these rails. Fortunately to our East was a wall and no track. This was a feasible plan to exit on that side and walk to the next station.
Is there a way I can communicate to the conductor? Many trains have buttons to talk to him/her. This one did not. There was an emergency stop handle with a large sign (in French) stating that to pull this in a non-emergency was a crime and you will be punished. Was this an emergency? Will pulling the lever cause damage to the train?
Maybe we should just wait this out. The train has to move at some point.
Tevia is waiting for me. The ONE DAY I get to leave early and THIS happens!

After another minute or so I decided to call our office. I spoke to one of my coworkers who was shocked at our situation and she urged me to pull the emergency lever. I protested, but she persuaded me that this WAS an emergency and that I should just pull it and let her know what happens. I hung up and decided it was a good idea considering the conductor may not stay long on the train (maybe he has already left?). So I pulled the red lever. Not much happened. A small noise sounded and a red light illuminated. But that’s it. And so I waited.

After what seemed like minutes a voice came through the speaker. He spoke French (and only French I confirmed with my basic French) and didn’t seem too happy. But I really couldn’t make out what he was saying and after trying to communicate with him the speaker went off and I stood there wondering what was going to happen. Would he now come and rescue us? Was he saying to chill out and hold on as the train will get moving in a few minutes? Did he yell at me and suggest I would be prosecuted for pulling the emergency lever?? My coworker noted that the conductor might be scared. For all he knew we were a bunch of killers luring in the French conductor. Or even worse, he knew we were alone and was coming to take out some stupid American tourists. I figured he’d seen a few too many horror films and told him this was the best story he was getting from this trip and to sit back and enjoy. We did sit back for quite some time.

Another long stretch and then we heard a key in the lock. Somebody was coming in. The conductor arrived spouting French and gesturing us to follow him. He led us out of the car onto the ground (on the safe side of the train) and pointed north. I figured, as did my colleague, that he wanted us to walk back to the station (probably a mile or so up ahead). But as we began walking he yelled at us and pointed to the next train car. He wanted us to go up into it. This seemed odd, but we did as he instructed – or at least what we think he instructed. He then led us deeper into the train and locked/unlocked dozens of doors as we headed down the long string of cars. I’m not sure why we had to exit the car we were in, but we didn’t have to do that on any other car. Eventually we got to the front/back of the train. I assumed he would then have us leave the train and walk, but I was once again incorrect. He got on the phone and I heard him call the last station and mention that he was going back there and to stop any trains on that track. I’m sure he added some commentary like “I have these idiot Americans that I have to take back to Soutreville so please stop all trains during rush hour to accommodate them.” The train began to move and we quickly arrived at the stop and were invited to get off the train. As we exited the train he blew the horn, which was quite loud and startling. I’m guessing he did this as a goodbye present – but we didn’t look back to give him any satisfaction that he scared us or anything. We acted like it was entirely normal as an American to be stranded on a train and then be driven back to the last station during rush hour.

During this time I actually called the office again and assured them we were safe and being saved. They informed us that the trains had stopped due to a bomb scare at one of the stops and thus all trains on that route were being shut down. It must have just happened when we got on as it wasn’t on the monitors when we got on back at the office; but it was at this point. This meant we had to take the long way home via train. I couldn’t believe my luck. On the one day I left early I not only get stranded on a train but then have to take a completely different train home which takes twice as long. Meaning that I actually wouldn’t get home until even later than usual. As I stewed on this thought and waited for the next train, another train from the same line arrived. This was the line that was closed. But when it arrived it opened its doors. It was like it was teasing me. “Get on board, silly American, let’s see if you will fall for this one again”. My companion insisted on not getting on the train, but as I saw other people get on I decided to go for it. And to our joy it was the right choice. We made it quickly and without incident back to our stop and were still back to the hotel before 7 pm. And I got to leave Paris with a great story.

Highlights of Europe 2010

London
I love Pret a Manger (a restaurant). I have known this for years (since Hong Kong). But by my second week I gave up on even trying to eat anything else and would just take the underground to the next stop and buy a sandwich at Pret. My favorite since Hong Kong (Brie, Tomato and Basil on a Baguette) was replaced with their new Prosciutto, Brie, Tomato and Lettuce. I am often tempted to open one here in Phoenix just so I can eat there. We were also able to eat there in NYC this summer, which was a highlight. So as much as London gets knocked on for bad food, there are some great places.
To continue on the food note, one evening we stopped at a French restaurant called Café Boheme. We got there very late at night (typical on business trips) and were actually able to get in. I ordered the beef tartar which was probably the best tartar I have ever eaten. Considering I’d only had it once before, that isn’t too big of a deal. But I had it a few times in Paris this summer as well, and this one was just as good if not better. I know that for some people it looks like a pile of ground beef, but the taste and texture is exquisite. I imagine this is what the raw meet the Nephites had to eat tasted like. If so, they were lucky!

Having been to London a few times, this last trip I was running out of things to do and see. I did manage to make it to the temple this time (which is NOT in London, by the way, but a considerable and pricey trip down to Surrey). This ended up being a great trip and the temple was beautiful. Another thing I decided to do was to take a boat up the Thames. Our office (and thus my hotel) is located in Chiswick which is west along the Thames. They do have some boats that serve as taxis from downtown to that area. I decided to give it a try. It is a 90 minute or so ride down the Thames and the weather was typical London weather where one minute it is sunny and warm and the next minute it is breezy and cool. The skipper narrated many parts of the trip and it was interesting to listen in. But most of the time I just enjoyed relaxing on the water, watching birds on the riverbeds, and listening to Slacker radio. As we approached the stop to get off, I was surprised to learn that the one bar near our hotel was a favorite of Oliver Cromwell over 300 years ago.

On Sundays it is always difficult to find things to do while on business as you don’t want to do anything contrary to the Sabbath, but at the same time you don’t want to just sit in your hotel room and do nothing. My last Sunday in England I decided to try out a park that we had passed when looking for a home last year. The realtor had mentioned that this park is great for Sunday afternoons and they even have deer. So I got on the train and headed to Richmond. I hiked up the hill to the park and realized that this park is huge. And it was beautiful. There were miles and miles of trails and tall grass and even little mounds that reminded me of Lord of the Rings. There were also large areas of trees that you could wander. I arrived late in the afternoon with the idea to look for some deer and sit down and read (I had brought a book). I had only walked about a mile when I was startled by a noise just a few feet from me in the brush. Lo and behold it was a deer! It had a beautiful reddish-brown coat with white dots and a fairly large rack of antlers (probably around 6 points on each side). I stood and stared with the animal for several minutes and then decided to move on. As I moved several more deer popped up from the brush. At this point I decided I would stay in this area. There were some woods just a few yards from the brush, so I made my way in there. I climbed a tree to get a better view and avoid scaring the deer and sat and watched them for nearly 30 minutes. After that I sat and read and watched and enjoyed seeing other people walking through the park, many of them with dogs. I was amazed to find such a site in London, where you couldn’t tell you were near a metropolis and you could see miles of flora and fauna. It was a wonderful evening. I walked back down into town in the evening and enjoyed a great meal prior to heading back to the hotel.


PARIS
A few years ago when I was in Paris I dreamed of a day I could bring Tevia and enjoy this city that won my heart. Last year as I stood at the top of the Eiffel Tower I was once again overcome by the urge to bring Tevia to the city of lights and stand on the Eiffel Tower with her. This year it came to pass. And it was all I imagined it would be. Though I had to work long hours and didn’t get to spend as much time as I would have liked, I was able to share many of the things l love about Paris with her. The biggest part being spending time in the most romantic city I have ever visited. For whatever reasons, this city brings a sense of love and romance. Even just walking down the street you see people holding hands, kissing, hugging, and even such romantic oddities (at least in the USA) as holding the hand of the woman beside you and stroking it as you look into her eyes. And people look at each other. They don’t just look, they stare. They are engaged, enraptured, captivated. It is enough to make an American uncomfortable as we come from the land of avoiding eye contact. It was enough that one of my coworkers noted at dinner one evening that he thought the two women beside us must be lovers as they constantly looked into each other’s eyes. But no, they were not.

Add this feeling of friendship and love to cooler nights and the habit of eating dinner outside, then you are provided ample opportunities to hold your loved one’s hand, and hold her close as you wait to cross a street. You are often expected to sit “next” to your lover at the table and not “across” from them as you would typically in the USA. I found this to be really cool – and though at first I thought it would be hard to have a conversation, the opposite was in fact true. And it made eating the customarily long dinners wonderful as we could hold hands in between courses or during moments of cuddling. Even sleeping on the hard, small bed in the cozy, small hotel room was fantastic as it felt as if we were years younger and who cares if it isn’t the biggest and best hotel room. I enjoyed every second spent with Tevia in Paris. We enjoyed some wonderful meals – my favorite being a meal up in Montmarte near Sacre Coeur. The meal consisted of some wonderful hot chocolate, some escargot, some wonderful cheese and meats and a great dessert. The atmosphere was awesome as we sat outside under a large tree and watched the sun creep closer to the horizon. The meal most likely took hours, but that was okay. We engaged in great conversation and enjoyed being “together”. And I think this is what Paris does: it brings people together. As you would walk down streets you would look and see happy people. People smiling, laughing, smoking together. And they probably do this every night but it never gets old. I feel we have lost that sense of community and friendship in the more sterile and cold USA. At a restaurant in the USA I barely look at those around me, and certainly wouldn’t stare. But in Paris people are looking around, smiling at strangers, and even winking or flirting unabashedly. These innocent things don’t lead to one night stands or upset egos, but rather an uplifted self confidence and a feeling of being present, or in the “now”.

A wonderful day in Paris with Tevia may consist only of waking up and enjoying a small breakfast of “chocolat” with “pain chocolat”, walking down the Champs hand-in-hand, finding a small café to enjoy a great baguette with ham and cheese or some other fantastic filling, enjoying the view of beautiful architecture and old buildings and then finishing the evening at another café while eating such delicacies as raw beef and snails. The only thing missing is a beach (but they do have the wonderful river Seine to view and walk).

In the end it was an unforgettable trip with the love of my life.

Friday, October 01, 2010

vocab?

Okay, I know everyone is busy, but I thought you all told me you were on bored with this vocab thing. I didn't not see one person use the word agog.
It's only one sentence guys!
In or Out? Dumb idea?  I can take it.
Who would like to pick the next word?

The news is agog this morning with stories of flooding, power outages, and rain totals.

Monday, September 20, 2010

Chapter 3, method 3

"When 2 humans have lived together for many years, ...they have tones of voice and expressions of face that are unendurably  irritating to the other. Work on that.  Let him assume the other is doing it to annoy,... but  never let him suspect that he has tones that are irritating to her."
"As he can not see or hear himself, this is easily managed."
Screwtape

oh yeah.  good one.
ps- I could use some help with chapter 4 on prayer.  I have read it twice.  Confusing.  I am fuddled.

Sunday, September 19, 2010

Our Awesome Friday Night

Last Friday night, Kathy and I decided to invite Malik over for some much needed fun. Right after Malik showed up, he and Kathy took off to get provisions for the night in the form of Pringles, Pizza Rolls, Twinkies, a Kit-Kat and (of course) croutons. Kathy and I also enjoyed some very delicious pina coladas (sans rum). I'll remember for next time that Malik doesn't like coconut and make sure we have milkshakes instead.


Malik came armed with his own Wii-mote and ready to bring the pain in Mariokart. And he did! He won 2 out of the 3 Grand Prix we did before watching our movie and I only won the last one because I switched to a Nunchuck.


After our sweet MarioKart action, we watched "Diary of a Wimpy Kid".




Malik loves the books and the movie was pretty funny. We all enjoyed it. I enjoyed it enough that I'm putting them on my "to read" list. After the movie, we fit in a couple more MarioKart races and took Malik home exactly in time for bed. Okay, not really - it was way past his bedtime. But what do you expect on a party night?!? :-)

It was a very awesome night and I'm already looking forward to our next one since something that awesome has to happen more than once.

Interesting IQs & Numbers

Leonardo deVinci- 220
Mozart- 165
Einstein- 160
Abraham Lincoln- 128
George Washington- 118
Normal IQ- 90-110, with 120 being superior and over 140 Genius.

I have never known my IQ score.

ACT test scores, average nationwide- 21.9, average BYU -ID, 24  BYU - 28.2, Harvard- 33
Again, I have not taken this test either.

I guess my brain has never been measured.  .

Any of you know your IQ? I don't even think they use that number for anything anymore, do they?

Wednesday, September 15, 2010

I hate to suggest it but...

should we consider moving the family book club to the end of October?
Reason #1: a LOT of us here in AZ haven't even started it yet (Jacob, me, Kathy, Jimmy, Hazel (j/k), etc.)
Reason #2: if we wait until the end of October, then Tommy will have time to read it and join in the discussion.
Reason #3: since we haven't officially blogged about the family book club, so everyone may not know about it yet, so if we push it back, we might get more involvement.

What does everyone think?

(In further explanation to reason #3: we decided we wanted to do a family bookclub every month or two and the book we're all reading now is The Screwtape Letters by C. S. Lewis - the more the merrier). :)

Fuddle

"Do remember that you are to fuddle him."  Screwtape, Chapter One
Good probe word.

Monday, September 13, 2010

News of the Day

(1) Speed

He now rolls from his back to his stomach! He got the whole stomach-to-back thing down when he was 2 weeks old (yes, we know he's freakishly strong) but yesterday he finally got to rolling from the other side. Now if we could just keep him from doing it in his sleep and waking himself up... :) I took a video of it today - I'll try to get it posted soon.

(2) Hazel

No more diapers!! Well, I think we may end up using Pull-Ups at night, but no more regular diapers at least! So far she's at 3 accidents today vs. 3 times using the potty. Not too shabby. I'm extremely grateful to Kathy for being here and helping me through this lovely potty-training time. It's very nice to have a second adult around all day to help keep an eye on Hazel. I'm sure it'll be a long week, but I think we're off to a good start.

(3) Me

Well, right now I'm very disappointed. I sat down today to register for the Rock'n'Roll Half Marathon and set up my training schedule on NikePlus.com. However, it turns out that this year, it's on a Sunday. I'll be honest with you: I thought about it. I might have even been able to do the race and still make it to church since I think we'll have afternoon church next year. But the more I thought about it, the worse I felt. So I asked Jacob for his opinion, which was a quick and strong NO. I will always be grateful for my husband lending me strength and conviction when I waver. So I will not be running that half marathon in January after all. I'll try to look for another race to train for as my goal, though it looks already like all of the rest of the half marathons in the next 5 or 6 months are all on Sundays. Go figure.

(4) Jacob

There's really not much to report for Jacob. I think he was the only one with a normal day. Good for him. :-D

Sunday, September 12, 2010

Families

"With the Lord, families are essential. He created the earth that we could gain physical bodies and form families. He established His Church to exalt families. He provides temples so that families can be together forever."
In preparing for another Trek for our youth next summer, I was reading my spiritual journal.  The creating and forming of the families was my duty, and one of the most sacred and spiritual responsibilities of the Trek that I experienced.  According to my entry, I prayerfully and carefully read over all the names of the youth that would be attending.   I then chose a physically strong young man for each family.  Next, a mature young woman.  I then looked for the youngest, newest youth, and newer members, and divided them up equally among families.  I then chose any with slight disabilities, and mixed them with extra strong parents.  I separated best friends.   I then took the STYCs, ( our youth leaders), and put 1 or 2 in each family.   I then mixed in all the rest.  I checked, prayed, checked again, prayed again, till it all looked right.  At that point, I then took the 3 hardest young men with bad attitudes who didn't even want to go, and put them with the strongest parents and families.  After much pondering and reflection, it was done.
This past trip spending 2 weeks with my adult children was an eye opener for me.  I had many epiphanies, and learned much about myself.  
In the end, I realized how great you all are; and how I need to let you live your lives, with all the problems, sorrows, trials, and joys that will be a part of those lives.  
Part of being a mother is to protect and support your children.  After doing that for so long, it feels awkward to not be that person.  I want to have a magic want and just solve everyone's problems.   But my job now is to let you know that you are all perfectly capable to run your own lives, and solve your own problems.  I cannot keep you from feeling pain or sorrow, but I can tell you that you will make it through.  Your happiness is all in your own hands,  and everyone's road with have its ups and downs.  That is life. 
Satan tires so hard to destroy families.  God tries so hard to build them.  
Be strong, and of good courage.   I love you all and each, and support you in any way I can.  Let us always work together to strengthen each other.    I see the love you have for each other. I see the love you have for your spoused and children.   I am grateful for each of you being in our family.